I was just wondering how other people have dealed with a friend who is boyfriend obsessed. I have a friend who has dealt with difficult anxiety and depression since she was a teenager, and I have been the one who she phoned when she was in a bad place. She’s been on very strong medications and has been very open in public about her struggles.
She’s had several boyfriends but with the latest one she has become very obsessed. I think that they are a good match and hope that it will go well. But I rarely hear from her now. I invited her over a few weeks ago for a takeaway and when I asked her a couple of nights before what time she wanted to come she said that she was going to go to see her boyfriend instead, even though I hadn’t seen her for months. I did tell her then that what she’d done was quite hurtful, and that if she’s committed, she should stick to the plan. She’s with him at all opportunities and has stoped taking part in her team sports etc.
She says that she’s cured from her mental health issues now, which is wonderful, but I’m struggling to get my head round how she went from being so ill to be cured so quickly. I’m very much of the opinion that I want to leave her to it because he’s obviously making her happy, but then I wondered if I was being too blasé about it? I just feel like if we distance, then these things happen, and at least I know it wasn’t on my part, but should I be more cautious?
I’m just worried that if things go wrong or if she becomes ill again? That she’ll need her friends but we will have distanced by then and moved on
You are being unreasonable - you should be telling her of your concerns that she’s distancing from everyone else
You are not being unreasonable - leave her to it, it’s her own doing, so move on without her