To ask if you and your DH/DP spend most weekends just the two of you

[TheLibrocubicularist]

And, if you do, do you enjoy it?

Yes and yes. He works long hours and we cba to socialise in our free time. Very occasionally we go out separately with friends, but mostly spend time together whether out for the day or hunkering down for lazy ones.

Half and half. The kids have a lot of activities/parties they need running to so we generally divide and conquer for those. We also have separate plans with friends reasonably often. The rest of the time it's family days out and hanging out with each other in the evening which is lovely but I wouldn't want that to be all we did.

Nope. We hardly get to spend any time together by ourselves.

DC are much loved but very hard work due to SEN. We spend all weekend supporting them including cosleeping.

We do get some occasional time together but it’s rare. We thoroughly enjoy it when we do though.

Sort of, and yes. We volunteer separately on Saturday afternoons, and a couple of times a month host or visit family for Sunday lunch, but the rest of the time it’s just us. We’re retired, though, so tend to socialise/see our own friends/hobbies more on weekdays

Weekends are normally a mix of my DH and I on our own and time with our three grown up DC.

We tend to see our individual friends during the week.

Dh coaches kayaking on a saturday up til about 2pm. I walk the dog in the morning, then he does the afternoon one. If it's dry I'll do a couple of hours on the allotment.
Sunday morning he walks the dog and takes DS2 to rugby and I play squash.. afternoon I walk the dog! After about 4pm we are home together unless we have a specific reason to go out, but dh is usually building something for the grandkids and I'll chill or cook... it's relaxed and suits us!

Yep, usually just us. Especially now the kids are 18 and 20 and both driving and doing their own thing.

I used to work weekends so we love that time together. Even if we aren't doing much. Especially if we aren't doing much!

Yes now our kids are adults, we no longer spend the weekends running around to sports/parties etc and are quite happy having lazy Sunday breakfasts and pottering around and watching football on the tv ☺️ I sometimes meet friends for coffee/lunch/shopping and we see our adult sons a lot but DH is a homebody and likes working in the garden.

<hollow laugh> no

We have a nearly five year old and a two year old, so we’re either wrangling both so one parent can have some time alone (not very often) dividing and conquering or all together.

I haven’t had proper time alone with DH for years now actually. We’re supposed to be having a day together next month and I’m actually a bit worried about what we’ll talk about 😂

Mostly, yeah. We do our own thing form time to time with our own respective friends but we don't tend to see much of each other during the week so we enjoy our weekends together.

Thanks for replies - I somehow missed a chunk out of my OP!

DH and I are empty nesters and were together a long time before we had DC. Weekends were a mixture of seeing our "couple friends", visiting family - none of whom are nearby - and just the two of us.

Now DD is working abroad, parents gone and preDD friends we lost touch with (mainly due to distance). Its just the two of us most weekends which is lovely but, as I wfh, I feel a bit isolated.

This, so glad it's not just us spending our weekends this way 😅

We have friends and family come over or we visit them and our teen and adult kids are often around, but yes, we spend a lot of it together. My partner is really easy going so he is easy to be around. We go out for meals, to the theatre, concerts, cinema, running, walk the dogs or just watch tv together. We also both work from home so we see a lot of each other all week too. It’s a good job I like (and love) him. We both go out by ourselves too, with the kids or with friends and family, but I do like being with my partner.

When the kids were younger, we didn’t spend as much time together as they had parties and sports they needed taking to so we’d divide and conquer. Life is easier now.

Would you be up for dung anything during the weekday evenings such as exercise class or even an evening WI group or book group?

Or do you live near a pub that has quiz nights you and your DH could go to or you join a nice health club/spa either separately or together?

Also sometimes booking a night away mixes things up so a Saturday night perhaps and do some sightseeing on the Sunday.

We spend half of Saturday together, as he plays sport. Which gives me time to do things I want to do. Then we spend all Sunday together. I like the balance. But it will change soon, as we are expecting!

Yes..Just the 2 of us and retired. But even when we were working we had weekends together...might meet friends for drinks Saturday afternoon or Sunday lunch. We enjoy each other's company but do things independently too.

This, so glad it's not just us spending our weekends this way

Most parents of very young children spend their weekends that way. Im talking about when the kids are grown- but missed that out of my OP 🙂