Hi, my husband and I have a toxic marriage.
I have been going to counselling and become increasingly angry with him about the wrongs I feel he has done to me. I started counselling to help my mental health and relationship. But I leave feeling angry about how he's treated me over the years (not physically, just generally not been nice) so at the moment i feel even worse.
It came to a head last week. I was annoyed with him about something , tired and hungry, with a headache. He kept speaking to me but I didn't want to talk. He got angry , I told him to stop arguing with me and that I hated him and left the house. I left because it gets too much for me and I hate the arguing.
When I left he slammed the front door with such force that the bath panel came out upstairs and cracked .
Our 5.5 old baby was in his crib next to the door he slammed. I am disgusted with him and feel what he did was unforgivable.
I went home and he was aggressive with me. I convinced him to go out and get some food. From there I locked him out for the night and said we were over. This was 4 days ago. He's been back since in the day to see the baby. But I've asked him to stay at his mums overnight.
He's been upset since and wants to work it out by going couples counselling. I don't know what to do. I feel I have failed my little boy. He's such a happy baby and I don't want to make him unhappy with all this.
Have I been unreasonable in locking him out, ending it ?
Since he's not been here for 4 days. He's refusing to transfer me bills money for last month which was over 1k yet my statutory maternity pay for the month is 800. I get he's not here but it was for last month.
He has a soft side and is hurting , particularly as I told him I hated him but I can't move past the arguing and that he slammed a door by our sweet little boy.