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AIBU?

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Original poster

Not really AIBU but genuine opinions wanted

57 replies

islandofsodor · 07/06/2008 22:36

Tonight we were all messing around when dd said "I'm so excited I'm going to pee my pants". She is 6. I sort of double took, asked her to repeat what she had said, told her I don't want to hear you saying things like that again, where did you hear it.

It's a line that x has to say in the play she said. The girls in the play are between 6 and 8 years old and it was written by the teacher/developed through improvisation.

Now I'm wondering if I am being a bit prudish or should I say something.

As a parent would you be happy with your child saying this?

If there are any teachers around would you think this is appropriate or would you be a bit wary in case parents complained?

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OverMyDeadBody · 07/06/2008 22:39

I don't think it is inappropriate as such, it's a pretty harmless expression really, but I would probably cringe a bit if it was in a kids play, and would rather DS didn't say it, but only in the same way I'd rather he said loo and not toilet.

Not sure if it's worth mentionning to the school.

emkana · 07/06/2008 22:39

It wouldn't bother me tbh.

PinkTulips · 07/06/2008 22:39

it's a phrase that disgusts me personally but it seems to be pretty common and taken as the norm unfortunately.

not sure if saying anything would get you very far but why don't you ask a few other parents what they think and if a few of you find it unpleasant go as a group and say it to her.

edam · 07/06/2008 22:40

Am tempted by the thread title to say 'here's a fake opinion for you'.

But honestly, I think you are being a bit prudish. I wouldn't like the line much myself but neither would I complain about it.

OverMyDeadBody · 07/06/2008 22:40

My first reaction is to cringe, but thinking about it now, I can't think of a really good reason why it shouldn't be used, apart from it being a bit crude and lavatorial.

Will be interesting to see what others think

bluejelly · 07/06/2008 22:40

It doesn't bother me in the slightest.

tortoiseSHELL · 07/06/2008 22:41

I think I would be unhappy about it actually - just because there is so much influence of slang on their speech anyway that it would be nice if school could give them a good influence.

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islandofsodor · 07/06/2008 22:42

Does it make a difference that the teacher works for me and it will be me that other parents will complain to?

Or will they complain? Should I tell her to take the line out to be on the safe side?

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S1ur · 07/06/2008 22:42

You're being a leeeeetle precious imo. Sorry!

My problem with it is it is so damn american. could she not say wee or piss?

Anyway, I don't think it is inappropriate anymore than I laughed so much I nearly wet myself. It's a bit crude I suppose but hardly worth complaining about imvho.

Tortington · 07/06/2008 22:42

i can't see a problem

unknownrebelbang · 07/06/2008 22:44

I'd be a bit if I heard it in a children's play, tbh.

OverMyDeadBody · 07/06/2008 22:44

I'd be surprised if any parents complain, but as Tourtoise said, it would be nice if a nicer expression where used.

How easy would it be for you to change it? Maybe to something from this thread?

themoon66 · 07/06/2008 22:48

You are being a bit precious I think.

I reckon the line is taken from some american film isn't it? I've heard it before... Grease perhaps?

2shoes · 07/06/2008 22:51

yabu

LittleBella · 07/06/2008 22:52

No I wouldn't be happy with my child saying this.

But I probably wouldn't write to the governors about it either.

SmugColditz · 07/06/2008 22:53

If my five year old said something so funny, inventive and normal, I'd be so excited I would probably pee my pants. I think you're being silly.

cheesesarnie · 07/06/2008 22:54

i dont get the problem?

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islandofsodor · 07/06/2008 22:54

Ok, as some of you say you would be a bit shocked even if youdidn;t actually complain I am going to tell her to change the line.

Even if parents don't complain it will still reflect badly on us.

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pointydog · 07/06/2008 22:55

I wouldn't mind my child saying this at all.

I am a teacher and if a script developed and this line was suggested in context, I wouldn't find it at all concerning or inappropriate. My class recently developed a play script where poo and flatulence were mentioned. Completely in context. And my surname is not McKeith.

stuffedaubergine · 07/06/2008 22:58

It bothers me, I would hate it. For goodness sake! Can't they teach them to be inventive with words? I'm going to pee my pants indeed. You're not being unreasonable, it's pathetic and lowering and not teaching her anything valuable at all. If someone in class suggested it the teacher should have said let's think of something else we can say like I'm so excited I'm going to explode, or fly away, or pop, or do somersaults just anything better than pee my pants.

For Pete's sake I would be so bored by this. It is so utterly predictable and immature.

pointydog · 07/06/2008 22:59

oh for heaven's sake. Are the children meant to be writing this script? I don't know all the ins and outs of this, obviously, but hand over the reins a little.

pointydog · 07/06/2008 22:59

lol @ crossed post

stuffedaubergine · 07/06/2008 23:00

nope I totally disagree with you pointy which I don't v often

I'm fed up of schools and teachers lowering themselves to infantilism

shybaby · 07/06/2008 23:00

tut tut, its a line out of pretty woman.

Teacher didn't write it, she was watching those soppy films .

stuffedaubergine · 07/06/2008 23:01

oh pointy were you agreeing with me?