I have come to the realisation that I am also attracted to women

[catlover8612]

I am woman approaching 40 and I am happily married to my husband of 10 years and have two children. We live a nice life

over the last year or so I have increasingly found myself being attracted to women. Boss at work, a friend etc etc. I really do love my husband and we have a good sex life. I have never actually been sexual with a woman so I can’t comment there and to be honest I won’t ever act on it

AIBU to feel this way while married?

Yanbu. It's actually really common for woman to come to this conclusion at your age and stage of life.

I think I am the same. I'm definitely physically and sexually attracted to women and have been for a few years now.

I'm also happily married to a man, with children so I will never act on it. I just wish I came to this realisation before I settled down so I could have experimented a little more.

I've always had confusing feelings with woman that I could never quite understand. I've came to realise that these were likely crushes or sexual attraction, but I was never able to recognise or place these feelings. This was likely as I was conditioned to be straight from day one and being gay was never an option. Especially back in the day when I was younger.

It's normal and I think it's part of the people-pleasing female socialisation fading.
You are not unreasonable for being attracted to women. Enjoy the occasional "Oh - she's nice" moment and move on, since you (reasonably) don't want to break up your marriage.

Thanks for replies. The more I think about it the more it’s people who I actually know rather than ‘fancying’ a random woman in the street. So maybe it’s something deeper. I don’t want to end my marriage so I just need to try and redirect focus somewhere else I guess

Not personally, but I know a few women who'd say the same. I don't think it's that unusual.

Thanks all. Good to know I’m not alone feeling this way 🙂