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How could care essentials be £218.50 a month ?!

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Daisydips · 14/11/2025 16:02

My child nursery says care essentials cost £218.50 a month. My child is 3 uses the toilet and only ever comes home with paper with normal black pen drawings on. What possibly could be costing £218.50 for it be an essential payment?

Am I being unreasonable to question this ?

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Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:00

Also @Lostuser it actually works out £23 a day for ‘essentials’

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showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:00

ThatChristmasMug · 14/11/2025 19:33

Some people try to pay their babysitter a tenner for the evening, because "its' not fair babysitters earn money. Trust the CF to want free childcare and free nursery too.

Funny how no one ever complains nail salons are too expensive?

Or their fillers.....

pambeesleyhalpert · 14/11/2025 20:04

We pay £26 a day for “essentials” without the funding it’s £97 so I’ll happily pay £26

Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:06

@pambeesleyhalpert the funding doesn’t cover essentials ?

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Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:07

I was literally asking a question. I have no idea how fillers nails and all the other stuff have come up in this chat.

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showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:08

Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:06

@pambeesleyhalpert the funding doesn’t cover essentials ?

How much are nurserys been given per hour for the funded hours?

showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:09

pambeesleyhalpert · 14/11/2025 20:04

We pay £26 a day for “essentials” without the funding it’s £97 so I’ll happily pay £26

Is that over 52 weeks or 36

Lostuser · 14/11/2025 20:10

Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:00

Also @Lostuser it actually works out £23 a day for ‘essentials’

I based it roughly on 20 days per month, assuming child attends M-F,

showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:12

sciaticafanatica · 14/11/2025 16:04

Food, soap, paper towels, sand,soil, play dough,
but honestly the free hours are not free!
they are funded and do not pay the hourly rate of the lowest paid workers

They do at my nursery. £4.30 per hour

MidnightPatrol · 14/11/2025 20:20

showershotof · 14/11/2025 19:59

Can't make money at 1:13 ratio for 3 year olds?

I think the ratio is generally accepted at nurseries at 1:8 at this age?

My nursery say they can’t offer a proper standard of preschool teaching at that ratio.

And of course - you can’t expect them to be at maximum capacity at all times.

Kitte321 · 14/11/2025 20:25

I really do think how they describe and structure funding, needs to be looked at again. I can understand the confusion, there is currently a mismatch in expectations by calling the hours ‘free’.

Reality is that nurseries can’t operate on the government funded hourly rate alone. I now receive 0 funded hours at all because my nursery stopped offering them. Because they felt it had become impossible. Unless something changes more may well follow suit!

Conclusion - I would pay the £218, Op and be happy.

showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:44

MidnightPatrol · 14/11/2025 20:20

I think the ratio is generally accepted at nurseries at 1:8 at this age?

My nursery say they can’t offer a proper standard of preschool teaching at that ratio.

And of course - you can’t expect them to be at maximum capacity at all times.

Those are the laws

pambeesleyhalpert · 14/11/2025 21:11

showershotof · 14/11/2025 20:09

Is that over 52 weeks or 36

52

VikaOlson · 14/11/2025 21:18

It's a top up as the government funding doesn't fully cover the costs.
But they're not allowed legally to call it a top up, it has to be a voluntary consumables charge.
They should itemise the consumables and give you the option of providing it.

The three year old funding is tricky as it isn't enough. I lose a £1 an hour on the funding as a childminder but I really can't be bothered to start charging 'consumables' and have parents argue about it and want to bring in boxes of tissues instead so I just don't take 3 year olds anymore.

VikaOlson · 14/11/2025 21:20

Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:06

@pambeesleyhalpert the funding doesn’t cover essentials ?

The funding is supposed to cover basic childcare only.
However my LA pays £5.50 an hour for 3 year olds which is less than even the cheapest childminder fees.

NormasArse · 14/11/2025 21:25

It’s for consumables- all the things that need replacing. Food, paints, sand, glue, baking stuff, baby wipes, the new pants and socks that go home and never come back etc.

VikaOlson · 14/11/2025 22:01

NormasArse · 14/11/2025 21:25

It’s for consumables- all the things that need replacing. Food, paints, sand, glue, baking stuff, baby wipes, the new pants and socks that go home and never come back etc.

Food, wipes and spare clothes - yes. Any extra activities like yoga or French or trips out.
But they can't charge extra for anything necessary to deliver the EYFS like sensory materials, toys, art resources.

showershotof · 14/11/2025 22:15

rrrrrreatt · 14/11/2025 18:06

I was about to say the same; it’s around £10 a day which doesn’t seem like a huge amount really.

Lunch, snacks and drinks could easily run to a fiver especially when you factor in the staff needed to prepare it. And then you’ve got equipment for activities like sand, arts and craft bits, etc, trips out, any visitors that come in for classes, wipes for faces, soap, spare clothes in case children don’t have any or go through theirs, sun cream in the summer, etc.

You can ask for a breakdown and it’s an optional charge but it doesn’t seem an outrageous amount to me.

She's not got her child in 50 hours a week

ThatChristmasMug · 15/11/2025 09:59

Daisydips · 14/11/2025 20:07

I was literally asking a question. I have no idea how fillers nails and all the other stuff have come up in this chat.

It was a general comment, about SOME people always complaining about the cost of childcare, about paying for nursery but never having issues with any "Luxury" non essential treats, nails fillers or sky tv or god knows what.

The people who would barely tolerate to pay £2 or £3 an hour for childcare astonish me. Would THEY consider being paid £3 an hour themselves? Why would they expect some bargain service and barely paid people to look after their own CHILD! And when it's nursery, it's babies and toddlers!

What's the absolute minimum they would consider accepting to be paid? How dare they consider paying any less?

user1497787065 · 15/11/2025 11:26

We paid far more than that per child per month 30 years ago when there were no government subsidies. If that is all you are being asked to
pay per child think
yourself very lucky.

Nickyknackered · 15/11/2025 13:20

I do think the more the government has subsidised for parents, the more they expect.

I'd love to show them what they'd have been paying 3 years ago!

mamagogo1 · 15/11/2025 13:27

so for the 30 “free hours” are they across 3 days or more? Then it’s approx £17 a day which if that includes lunch, snacks etc isn’t too bad. It was £40 a day when mine were 3, max subsidy was £50 per week for the “free hours” and only £10 could be used per day (thus you could only get the full £50 if your child was full time at day nursery). Things are definitely better now

VikaOlson · 15/11/2025 13:28

Nickyknackered · 15/11/2025 13:20

I do think the more the government has subsidised for parents, the more they expect.

I'd love to show them what they'd have been paying 3 years ago!

I've seen some providers invoice showing what the full cost would be, then minus the funded hours so parents actually see how much they save.
Unfortunately once something is free, for lots of people it means worthless.

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