I’m not really sure what to do here. About 6 years ago I dated a friend for a few months, I fell head over heels for him, we’d been friends for years before. He called it off, said he just wasn’t feeling it and we were better as friends, we have mutual friends so the friendship continued. I met someone else, was with him for 4 years and we had a baby together who is now 1, but we broke up early this year. If I’m totally honest I was never really over this guy. He has dated and had fairly short term relationships since but nothing serious until now.
Now he has been with a girl for about 8 months, he’s so obviously in love with her, head over heels etc. She started joining occasionally for wider group things and when she hasn’t joined he does talk about her (which is fine we all talk about the people we are with or dating), but it hurts so much. It keeps making me think why her? What was wrong with me! I know it’s stupid and I need to work on my self esteem and we really didn’t date for that long.
The issue I have is he is a part of my core friendship group, I do have other friends but these are my closest friends and I do not want to lose them, they matter to me. Some of my other friends have said I just need to end the friendship with him but I can’t do that as then I’d also lose my other friends.
AIBU to feel like this? How do I get over it?