To be able to choose the god parents I want for my baby?

[HadEnoughAlready]

I'm PG at the moment with baby no.2. Decided that I wanted my best friend (who I see every day) to be one godmother and my DH's sister to be the other. Thought this was fair as my sister is godmother to my DS.

Two weeks ago on a rare visit to my sister she asked about who the godmothers would be this time to the new baby. When I told her my choices she got really pissed off and said that I would be the godmother to any kids she would have as friends come and go but she'll always be my sister.

Since then she's not spoken to me and has really got the hump about it. The last thing I want is for her to be upset with me and have sent her a card apologising and also sent emails. To no response.

I have said that i'd like her to be a godmother but in which case there will be 3 godmothers as am not demoting anyone I have already chosen. (am not really fussed about the amount- and would like to keep the peace where possible).

Have heard absolutely nothing from her. I did feel bad even though i'm happy with my choices but now feel annoyed with her lack of response and think she is being very childish .

So AIBU?

Definitely agree with other comments re brothers and sisters always being auntie and uncle so choosing 'outsiders' as godparents to extend family can only be a good thing. I chose my LO's godmothers and my DH asked his brother to be GF (under a LOT of pressure from MIL). I then insisted that we asked our best man to be 2nd GF as although he's technically DH's best mate, we get on really well, and as an only child I wanted to weight things a bit on my side as I have no extended family locally either.
At the end of the day it's your decision and if you've now asked your sister to be GM as well I think she's being pretty unreasonable to carry on like this. Good Luck!

Good luck with the scan...

Sorry but that just makes your sister even MORE unreasonable - she knows you are having to cope with all this on your own and STILL she pulls this. Tell her to f*ck off and grow up!!!

oh dear
very unreasonable of your sister
hope all is well with the baby
concentrate on that and not people who are going to drag you down by their petty squabbles

Your choices would work for a Dedication, TinkerBellesMum but for CofE godparents have to say 'I believe in God' among other things so it narrowed down the choice.

YANBU - my sister has asked to be godmother to this baby, she is already DD's we have told her gently but firmly that no we wanted different ones this time so they had some person unique in their lives just for them.

Best of luck with the scan. I think your Mum is also being very unreasonable and possibly egging her on.

I always feel that there ought to be a constant when it comes to Godparents. My brother and my longest standing gfriend are Gparents to both of my Dc's, the others are 'just' friends. Your sister is right of course. Friends do come and go but she will always be your sister. I don't know what you can do about her sulking though.

Funny thing is people tend to Christen because it is the "right thing" even without belief in the Bible or without it being a Biblical thing to do (not saying that is anyone in particular) and yet people worry about the wording.

My view is that no one can promise to bring my child up in a Christian way apart from me and her dad, which we started out doing by Dedicating her and asking people to just be interested in her life.

As I don't have a correct understanding of these non-biblical practices, I'll remove myself from the conversation. Sorry to have wasted anyone's time.

Sorry, that should have been

"even without belief in the Bible (not saying that is anyone in particular) or without it being a Biblical thing to do"

Suely by not speaking to you she has clearly demonstrated just how fickle even sisters can be.
I can't understand why people have their children christened anyway (unless they are devout and regular churchgoers), but who you choose to be godparents is exactly that - your choice.

Thanks for all your responses. Looking back through this thread I look so wet! hmm need to let her get on with it I think. (Still no response today from her today).

If I was to do things again, I would not have blood relatives as godparents. Far too much scope for egos and hurt feelings but is too late to change minds now without further hoo ha. Nearly makes me think twice about having a christening at all!!!

I did see my mum at the weekend and relayed the 'she will always be an aunty' argument and she was quite taken aback. She hadn't seen it like that. I also said that with my sister getting upset, she needs to realise that my DH also has sisters -one in particular, I know will be put out over all of this.

Family (arghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!)

im being really nosey now how how did you scan go? i really hope everything is ok. xxx

I have 4 dc, and they have all been christened. My dh's brother is godfather to all 4, but this is also because (god-forbid) if anything should happen to dh and I he has agreed to be their gaurdian. All the other godparents are different for each child, with my sister being godmother to my eldest only, all the other godparents have been/are close family friends.
oh all I'm trying to say, is do what you feel is right.