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Beautifulsiro56 · 13/11/2025 13:51

I have spent the past year at home with DD. I had to move for husbands work so I gave birth and have lived in his city for a a year now. I struggle with lack of support with DD, no family or friends nearby.
I have been unwell for 5 days now, I dont get enough for my body to recover. Dd wakes up every 2 hours (when im lucky) to comfort, she is also ill.
Today I was so broken from lack of sleep and general illness, DD wanted to contact nap on me I was hungry, tired, thirsty, broken I got so annoyed I took her off with a bit of force as she wouldn't come off. Everytime I put my finger between her mouth and breast she would grip onto me. I then left her crying in the cot alone because I needed to step away. I messed my partner saying I hate him, I hate our daughter, I hate everything, i wish i hadnt married him, our daughter is a brat, I wish I never started breastfeeding, I understand why mums shout at and hit their kids - its because they are unsupported. Our daughter is a little idiot etc...
I left DD jn the cot for a good few mins whilst i did this screaming away before picking her up and not even looking at her - she could tell i was distant from the way I ignored her.
I feel so bad - she isnt a brat, I dont hate her, I hate i took her off with using a bit of force - by force i mean pulling away whilst she was gripping on to me. I just feel awful and like an awful mum for what I said ABOUT her to my husband

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Definitelynotme2022 · 13/11/2025 14:06

Give yourself a break.... you're ill and you're struggling. You put your dd somewhere safe and stepped away to calm down, that's the right thing to do. A few minutes of crying won't hurt her, I promise.

How old is your dd? When is your dh coming home? He needs to take over as much as humanly possible and let your rest. He can bring dd to you when she needs to feed, and he can order a takeaway for dinner.

TheSandgroper · 13/11/2025 14:10

I remember putting my screaming baby on the floor and walking away into another room. I just couldn’t think what else to do.

You are about survival right now. Live by “everybody’s fed, nobody dead” and that includes you. Drink lots of water - dd will be sucking you dry. Eat. Let dd shout. I did tell myself if she was shouting, she wasn’t dying. (If she had ever stopped shouting, I would have had wings on my feet).

I hope that your DH comes home at a reasonable time and rolls up his sleeves for you and is prepared to leave you in bed all day on Saturday while he parents.

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