To really not want to do this?

[Tulips8465]

My cousins making a birthday video for her sister and wants people to video themselves for it. She's said we can say whatever we want in it. I really really dont want to do this. I'm not in a great place currently anyway, I absolutely hate seeing and hearing myself on video. Let alone then sending it to someone and them being able to send it to anyone or put it anywhere. Im going to feel SO awkward doing it. It really feels like the last thing I want to do with everything I've been through this year. I also dont know if its going on social media. I know I'll probably just end up doing it because I dont want to upset anyone but would anyone else feel similar? I wish I was an easy breezy person who would easily make a little birthday video.

How about making a video of something nice (sunset, your pet playing, a photo montage) with a voice over (or Happy Birthday music), rather than you talking to camera?

You could send a generic birthday song with a photo of you attached?

Dig out an old photo, zoom in on it and say something along the lines of "I remember when you were this little! Happy birthday" etc.

A voice over with a picture / video / montage of you and her as little children?

I kept being repeatedly asked to do this for a birthday ..I didn't want to do it for similar reasons to you I knew it would be put on social media for all to see and that really intimidated me and made me feel anxious

I felt like I was under pressure and started getting messages along the lines of can you do it today we're still waiting for you
I thought why should I be pressured into something I'm extremely uncomfortable about doing I'm sick of doing things I don't want to do that gives me anxiety and stress
So I sent a thumbs up in the end after being bombarded with messages and just didn't do it
On the person's birthday I sent a nice birthday message.. the birthday person had no problem with me and why should they
It did indeed go on social media even YouTube
Just do the same op don't be bullied

Perfect.

Me and DP had to do this for DS’s girlfriend’s birthday.

We were such a mess trying to do it, me crying with laughter at DP getting angry and frustrated that we kept messing it up and couldn’t get it over with. We haven’t been on social media for years and both of us were very overweight at the time which made us more insecure.

Her socials didn’t cross over with anyone we knew as far as I know, so it wasn’t too bad but I concluded it’s actually quite a lot to ask of people.

PPs alternative ideas are good!

don’t do it. If they chase either ignore or say ‘not sure I’m going to get round to it but will sort out my own way of marking it for her’ or something

It’s perfectly acceptable to say thanks for asking, but I’m really not comfortable doing that.

I literally couldn't do this OP. Not even if my life depended on it.

Tbh I would be totally embarrassed even receiving birthday videos.

Honestly OP just refuse. I don't understand why anyone would put pressure on you to do something you really don't want to do.