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How can this be fair?

59 replies

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 17:27

Sunday afternoon as I returned from a bike ride a car was in my driveway in front of my garage. As I was trying to get bike in through the back gate (next to garage) I asked him to move back or I would hit the car .
I also told him he could not stay as it was blocking my garage (my car inside !)
Monday , I go to work (bike) and return and the car is still there - back window is open.
Contact non emergency police. Upload pics of it . Told they will attempt to contact owner . Next day they text to tell me council need to sort it.
I phone the council , fobbed off with them not taking action as it is on private land not a road !
The DVLA are not intetrested despite it being untaxed (as it is on private land)
Council are now saying they will stick an abandoned sticker on it giving the owner 7 days to return.
Meanwhile, doors hve been opened, car ransacked , fuse box nicked etc. Not by me.
How is it fair that I have to incur the cost of getting it towed away ?

Do I -
Somehow move the car on to the street - council will deal with it then (do not know how as no manual handbrake - it is a button ) and will I be committing a crime then ?

Pretend I have an emergency and get the police involved that way ? If indeed they would !!!!!!!
RANT OVER !!!!!!!!!

OP posts:
isthesolution · 12/11/2025 18:35

Is it a nice car? To have a button handbrake it can’t be that old? And then it begs the question why on earth would someone abandon it on your drive?!

Id ring the police and tell them you urgently need your car out. Theoretically you can’t get to work, children to school, to visit sick relatives etc!

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:36

isthesolution · 12/11/2025 18:35

Is it a nice car? To have a button handbrake it can’t be that old? And then it begs the question why on earth would someone abandon it on your drive?!

Id ring the police and tell them you urgently need your car out. Theoretically you can’t get to work, children to school, to visit sick relatives etc!

Well it’s not nice now… according to the op within 48 hours it’s been stripped!!

OnARainyDay2012 · 12/11/2025 18:36

Ask Google how to release the handbrake and put into neutral for that make/model - there is a way otherwise how would it get onto a tow truck if broken down and non starting. E.g. for my car it was to push and hold gearstick over to N. Then push it onto the road.

Alpacajigsaw · 12/11/2025 18:40

Wait for the thieves to come back and ask them to Hotwire it so you can drive it forward

Kangarude · 12/11/2025 18:53

Do some posters not realise that the car is on the OP’s private driveway. Even if it’s blocking the garage, it is not on public land so nothing to do with the police.

OP - I can’t believe you saw someone in the vehicle, on your driveway and you didn’t ask him why he was there or tell him to piss off.

Theunamedcat · 12/11/2025 19:01

Is the battery still in? The handbrake might work if the battery is still connected

For everyone wondering why its been stripped so fast it might be stripped to order the actual owner might be on holiday and unaware its gone there was a scam years ago with airport parking cars dissappear while your on holiday your none the wiser until you land

FOJN · 12/11/2025 19:11

Theunamedcat · 12/11/2025 19:01

Is the battery still in? The handbrake might work if the battery is still connected

For everyone wondering why its been stripped so fast it might be stripped to order the actual owner might be on holiday and unaware its gone there was a scam years ago with airport parking cars dissappear while your on holiday your none the wiser until you land

But surely parking it on a private drive and stripping it there would just draw attention to it. It would draw far less attention if it were parked in a remote country layby.

londongirl12 · 12/11/2025 19:48

Have you knocked on all your neighbours doors and asked if they know whose it is?

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 20:40

Kangarude · 12/11/2025 18:53

Do some posters not realise that the car is on the OP’s private driveway. Even if it’s blocking the garage, it is not on public land so nothing to do with the police.

OP - I can’t believe you saw someone in the vehicle, on your driveway and you didn’t ask him why he was there or tell him to piss off.

It is not the nicest of areas - knife attack just the other week. I didnt feel safe challenging him on my own . Hence pointed out it was a drive and he would have to move !

OP posts:
Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 20:41

isthesolution · 12/11/2025 18:35

Is it a nice car? To have a button handbrake it can’t be that old? And then it begs the question why on earth would someone abandon it on your drive?!

Id ring the police and tell them you urgently need your car out. Theoretically you can’t get to work, children to school, to visit sick relatives etc!

SUV 61 plate !
I will do this with the police - emergency situation

OP posts:
Morningreppy · 13/11/2025 05:42

Jenkibuble · 12/11/2025 20:40

It is not the nicest of areas - knife attack just the other week. I didnt feel safe challenging him on my own . Hence pointed out it was a drive and he would have to move !

You need to spend your time looking to move

a car parked on private property - broken in to and stripped within hours of being parked there?!

MsGinaLinetti · 13/11/2025 06:03

FOJN · 12/11/2025 17:59

I'm a bit confused. Who did you speak to on Sunday? Was the owner in the process of leaving the car on your drive when you returned from your bike ride? Do you know who the owner is?

And the car is not taxed? Or did I misread?

Jenkibuble · 13/11/2025 06:28

MsGinaLinetti · 13/11/2025 06:03

And the car is not taxed? Or did I misread?

Checked DVLA and expired in August

OP posts:
Jenkibuble · 13/11/2025 06:28

Morningreppy · 13/11/2025 05:42

You need to spend your time looking to move

a car parked on private property - broken in to and stripped within hours of being parked there?!

House is on the market

OP posts:
Suednymph · 13/11/2025 06:35

FOJN · 12/11/2025 19:11

But surely parking it on a private drive and stripping it there would just draw attention to it. It would draw far less attention if it were parked in a remote country layby.

Clearly hidden in plain sight what with the police not seeming to care.

FirstdatesFred · 13/11/2025 06:46

So your house is on the market and now you have an abandoned ransacked damaged car on your drive! Oh dear, that's not going to help sell it.

ThisPithyJoker · 13/11/2025 06:52

Admittedly not a drive but I used to live in flats near a train station that was a 20 minute train to London. We used to get commuters parking in the underground car park, allocated spaces all the time. Then there was a rash of someone 'renting' the spaces out online despite having no claim to the private spaces. Several residents had strangers in their underground space for a couple of weeks while the owners went on holiday in London. Management could do nothing but issue fines, police and council weren't interested because it was private land and the residents were advised that they weren't allowed to clamp/move/risk damaging the cars as they'd then be liable for interfering with someone else's property! Seems like a massive legal loophole.

MadeOneMistakeGotBurnedAtTheStake · 13/11/2025 06:58

Email your MP

StaySpicy · 13/11/2025 07:12

We had two random men parked on our drive a few days ago. We have a driveway and share the middle bit that goes down between the houses with the semi next door. I arrived home with my son on bikes and there was a random car parked on the shared bit, blocking the way to the back gardens. We couldn't get through as it was parked quite tightly between our car and next door's. One door was open and two men were in the front seat on a video call or watching a video. It stank of cigarettes.

I had to tell them we couldn't get through and could they move and they could park on the road. They reversed into the road and when we put our bikes away I could see through the window they sat there with the engine on for a good 30 minutes. They did leave though.

I've never had a random park on the driveway before and there was only just space between our cars. There was loads of road space.

Sorry, OP, no help, but wanted to share my own recent tale of strangers parking on driveways. It just seems so weird! I mean, how would you think it was a public parking spot?! Nowhere near any shops or anything other than houses!

And infuriating for you that no-one can deal with it for you and yet you're not allowed to get it towed.

IsFearrCuplaFocalNaCuplaFuckAll · 13/11/2025 07:18

I don’t understand why the police are doing nothing - if the car is blocking access to the highway they can get involved. As your car is blocked in, it is.

you’ve never seen the guy before? This is so weird. I would gather some strong men and push it on to the public highway, that way the police deal with it but I would also be nervous that this guy knows where you live.

EleanorReally · 13/11/2025 07:21

did you put it on your local facebook?

Dizzybob · 13/11/2025 07:25

Why on earth did you ask him to move back and not get fully off your drive?!!

neverbeenskiing · 13/11/2025 07:27

Goodnightreps · 12/11/2025 18:27

Meanwhile, doors hve been opened, car ransacked , fuse box nicked etc.

what kind of an area do you live in that this happened within a day of it being parked on your driveway?

What a pointless and insensitive question.
Some people live in areas with very high rates of crime and ASB. You must know that such places exist, even if you've never lived in one or had cause to visit them.

neverbeenskiing · 13/11/2025 07:28

Dizzybob · 13/11/2025 07:25

Why on earth did you ask him to move back and not get fully off your drive?!!

She has already answered this.
She was on her own and wary of getting into a confrontation with an unknown male, he reversed out to let her get her bike and she believed he was leaving.

Evaka · 13/11/2025 07:33

Omg stop asking OP why she didn’t force the bloke off the driveway. All these incredulous responses are so unhelpful and make the posters sound really dense.