Is this saying true?

[Netcurtainnelly]

I've heard people say if a man dosent treat his mum very well, that's a sign he wont treat his girlfriend/wife well either.

Does this apply to you?
If you have or had a horrible partner, what was he like with his mum?

Well, if a man treats anyone badly then that's a bad sign in general. If he treats his own mother badly, without strong justification (eg she is abusive) then that's clearly a bad sign, and why would you want to be in a relationship with anyone who behaves that way?

Nah, my abusive, violent ex was really good to his mum.

I also dated a really lovely man who had a terrible relationship with his mother. And I didn’t blame him, because she was a god-awful woman who, quite frankly, I wouldn’t have pissed on if she was on fire.

no as some mothers are awful

abusive ex absolutely adored him mum and he could never do any wrong

Its not true then.

No. My brother is an exceptionally good son to my mum. In fact, if he had to choose between mum and his wife and child, he’s choose the former in a heartbeat. However, he’s not a good husband nor father.

Not remotely true.

The Kray twins doted on their mum. 😁

Same! There's a pattern here. I remember him telling me once the only women he needed was his mum 🫣

Some people are dickheads

If they treat their mum badly then they're most likely a dickhead

If they don't then that doesn't mean they are not a dickhead.

My experiences are the opposite.

My first serious boyfriend (mid 20's) was a real "Mummy's boy", still living at home, still pandering to her, taking her shopping, etc., even though she was only in her 50's and more than capable of looking after herself. He was an absolute nightmare. She always came first and I was way down the list of importance - he'd cancel our dates and days out whenever she wanted him to do something and sometimes he didn't even bother contacting me to tell me he was cancelling. I VERY quickly "cancelled" him!

Second serious boyfriend (now DH) who I've been with for 38 years was the opposite. A much "healthier" relationship with his mother. He was "respectful" to her but refused to pander to her and after we'd been together for a few weeks and it was clear we were "serious", he made it clear to her and I that I came first! That set the boundaries and we went on for MIL and I to have a mutual respectful relationship for the next few decades. He'd help her out and do things for her, but he wasn't "on call" for her except in emergencies. Much healthier!

The only awful guy I dated was also a jerk to his Mum. As above, I think a man treating anyone unkindly is never a good sign. That being said, I don’t think a guy being good to his Mum is a guarantee that he’ll make a good partner/husband/Dad, either.

Anyone who treats anyone else badly is not someone to get into a relationship with.

A good friend once had a date with someone she had fancied for ages. He was rude to a waiter while they were on the date and that was the end for her (and would have been for me, too!).

I think a man treating anyone unkindly is never a good sign.

I once read that boys learn a lot about how to treat girls by seeing how their father treats their mother.

Why d’you ask, specifically, Netcurtainnelly?

I think there is some weird mothering behind the most dangerous men, so they can be too good/close to their mothers too!