Young SIL telling people I have an eating disorder

[Froun]

This is a very odd situation. My sister in law is about a decade younger than dh and I. She’s at university and came to stay with us for the weekend. She is a sweet girl but just has that obnoxious side to her where she thinks she’s knows it all and has everything figured out. Funnily enough a lot of people in DH’s family love to psychoanalyse people. SIL included. But MIL and FIL do it too and see no qualms in saying quite periodontal things like “she clearly has daddy issues”. It can come across extremely judgmental.

I have to come to find out after having a perfectly nice stay with us SIL has told her aunt and cousin I have an eating disorder. Supposedly I binge then restrict 😂

The day of food she is so concerned about consisted of:

Brunch: 4 slices of crap bread with honey butter on toast (I know this is a lot in one go, I never eat four slices in one sitting normally but I randomly woke up ravenous - was getting my period tbf). It really filled me up so I did not need to eat/snack during the day. Had a couple of white coffees more just to enjoy the taste.

Dinner - I had a chicken salad when SIL and husband ordered big fat burritos. I just don’t like burritos as I find they are too sloppy to eat when delivered.

Im slim and look very healthy (good skin, hair, nails etc). I eat very well most of the time but I really listen to my cravings when I’m on my period. I will absolutely crave carbs. I know my body will return to normal post period so don’t see an issue.

Should I confront sil? Or just let it be? I find it humorous more than anything.

I personally don’t see any benefit that could come from speaking to her about this. Let her think what she wants, arguing with her about it when she’s already got an opinion will just make her think you’re in denial about your eating anyway.

I’d ignore it OR next time you see the family members she said that to, tell them that making things up for gossip purposes is clearly a sign of deep-seated issues with not getting enough attention as a child 😄

LIke it 😉People like this make my teeth itch.
I just tilt head and smile "Really? Do you think so? That's nice." The ignore them by either turning away or better still walking off.
The armchair anaylsts [and there are plenty on MN] usually know fuck all anyway about anything that matters and are best ignored ime.

Another vote for a comment - ones already said or something like this…

Hmmm I wonder what it says about you SIL, interesting how your deep seated anxieties are making you project like this onto others.

what’s she actually studying @Froun ?

I’ve had this issue. Apparently I must be anorexic. I just ignore it but it is objectively a twatty thing to say. If someone was genuinely struggling with an eating disorder or body image issues, gossiping about it wouldn’t help!