I carry most of the mental load of the family, we both work FT, we share household chores more of less equally, with me carrying a bit more. When it comes to holidays, generally I plan them because I enjoy it and look forward to it. Next spring DH wants us to go home as a family for family milestone overseas to where he is from. I started to look at travel, but could not get DH to give me a firm idea on dates, length of trip ect. So I'd get as far as getting quotes on flights, then passing them to DH to coordinate dates etc. This event is now 4 months away and we've not booked, flights are 40% more expensive and he still hasn’t arrange exact timings of the trip to be home at the same time as other members of the family. I got another quote last week, passed it on to DH, to be met with we must be able to get them cheaper than that. Then he sat on it for another 10 days. AIBU to just pass this on 100% to DH to handle, even if it means he's leaving it so long we can't all afford to go? I am tempted to send him the last quote and say, I've got this as far as I can - I need you to take over from here. Last time we did a trip similar to see my family, I did all the planning and the logistics were exhausting so I'm not really up for this again. Of course I'd love to go, but I don’t want to carry more mental load going into my busy period at work and with the festive season upon us. I just need a few less things off my mental load before it gets too much!