To be disrespected that my friend invited our friend over to my house for a party without asking me first.

[goldenpuppy34]

Me, my friend (lets call her Sally) and her friend (who i have recently become friends with too) are all in a group chat. Me and my housemates decided to have a binge-watch party and invited a bunch of our friends over.

A text comes up on the group chat with Sally inviting her/our friend over for the binge-watch which is at my house without asking me first.

AIBU to feel disrespected and just find it rude considering its at my place and what me and my housemates have organized.

Well yeah it's not ideal but was probably a bit thoughtless more than anything. If you're generally a relaxed group of people she might not have thought anything of it or maybe misunderstood and thought she was invited anyway ?

I'd probably silently grumble over it but i wouldn't think my friend meant to disrespect me.

Psychic Sally? How did she know about the “binge watch party”

Presumably Sally was one of the friends who were invited. Not rocket science, is it?

It was most likely thoughtlessness and she honestly thought you wouldn't mind. Especially as you do actually know the other person and call her a friend. If you're living with housemates then presumably you are reasonably young and it's not usually the sort of thing young people get their knickers in a twist about. If you were cooking a special meal or something, then I could understand it a bit more.

It’s really quite obvious. OP invited her. So she knew about it.

The problem is she then went onto the group chat with OP and this other person, whom Sally is friends with, and extended the invite to her without OP’s permission.

lol, you’re one of those women.

It would have been polite to ask you but I probably wouldn't mind her bringing the friend along if she knows you like her. People are different and if it's not something she'd mind, she probably didn't think you would either!

Sally probably assumes you are a more easy going person than you actually are

Sorry but the vibe I get is you're having a sulk because your friend invited your other friend over, to join you and some other friends to watch a bit of telly ... and yeah, your gripe is....?...... that she didn't run it by you first

It's not like she invited a stranger. She invited a friend of yours to a party. I wouldn't see that as a big deal. It's a party, not a black tie dinner.

Does it really matter? You're all friends. The more the merrier, I would have thought.

It's very rude of her OP, and don't be persuaded otherwise.

What do your housemates think?

Rude yes, but unlikely it was meant with any ill intent. Maybe if she repeatedly does this have a chat, but if it’s a one off let it go, we’ve all made social faux pas’s in the past (whether we were aware or not)

Of course this is weird. Who does that?! Mumsnet is a different world!

Can you explain please as I don't understand

Reads like you’re in a HMO, and a group of you watching telly, I can’t imagine getting worked up about this and being so precious. It’s not like urs your family home with kids present and hosting a dinner party, it’s a group of mates in a house share watching Netflix or something. Do you not like the other woman or something?

You feel disrespected simply because your friend invited another of your friends to a group gathering?

Grow the fuck up.

Don't be a dick.
You asked and people gave their opinion.
You sound like a child having a tantrum.
Grow up

Quite.