To think friend's OH should know about her cheating and STD?

[SeenHerSelina]

So I learned that my 'friend' of many years had cheated on her OH of many years quite a few times. I never knew and I know her OH didn't either. I've remained her friend since this came to light a few months ago, but it's a very different friendship than it was. I'm trying to hang in there and be the best friend that I can be. But I just can't condone her behaviour, and now she's told me that she tested positive for HPV after a ONS like more than 6 months ago but didn't tell her OH. AIBU to think she MUST confess?

I thought you only tested for HPV in the pap smear? And it can appeal months after you've contracted it?

Eww tell her partner what she's doing disgusting

The HPV was probably already an issue.

Stay out of it, it's not your business. If you can't be friends with her any longer then end the friendship.

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She doesn't have to tell him, no. But I'd be recommending strongly that she does so.

Though HPV is so common that is presence wouldn't necessarily lead to the conclusion that cheating had definitely occured. It comes and goes and as it's symptomless often, she could've had it on and off for decades.

So she could say about the HPV but still deny shagging around. Either way it really is her mess to deal with. Give advice but I wouldn't be telling him.

My sentiments exactly

I'm trying to hang in there and be the best friend that I can be

Why? You don't like her. You don't have to be friends with people you dislike and whose values/behaviour you find repellent.

As getting HPV 'after a one night stand', that isn't really how HPV works - she could have had the virus for years and her partner may well have had it anyway. It's really common for people to carry it.

She sounds pretty horrible to me and I'd struggle to be friends with anyone who cheated on their partner in that way, but it's not really your business what she does/doesn't tell her husband.

Second account there OP?

God I cannot imagine if it was gender reversed and man was cheating on his wife, contracting stds and the advice was don’t tell her and stay out if it …..

he should be told

She could of had hpv for months even years prior to this, it lays dormant in the body and even so much as stress can trigger if off, and unfortunately it just a virus that you have to wait for your immune system to kick off, but if it’s laying dormant it won’t show up on a test. Let’s face it she could have got it off of him in the first place as it’s passed on by a man, so there is nothing he or she can do about it now! So I wouldn’t say anything about it!