No physical contact

[Priya879]

Trying to figure out life and all the rest of it. Partner and I have been together 2 and a half years. I'd say after 5 months all physical contact stopped. I have tried every approach to get us back on track but I get nothing. Should I just give up now.

I've had many reasons, weight gain, low libido, then I was told that this has happened in other relationships hes been in...he gets the "ick" and then goes off sex with his partner. Sometimes he just says he's tired. I've had every reason under the sun. I dont think he is depressed or anything like that. Added to this, I (sorry to admit) went through his phone history once and it was day after day after day of porn videos in his search history

He's actually told you he has the "ick"? Wtf His libido is fine if he's watching porn every day, it's not like he's watching a quiz show.

You deserve better than a porn addict.

Kick him out fast and stop him stealing your time.

He doesn’t want sex with you he never will. you need to get out of that situation. He won’t change, but you will it’ll bring you down.

He’s porn addled basically, and can’t really find the sexual attraction and desire to be intimate and sexual with ‘ordinary’ (as in in real life in person) sex.

If he wants to solve this the first thing he needs to do is stop using porn. There’s a lot of literature about what porn does to sex drives and the brain if overused - he’s also likely got death grip too.

basically he has to want to have physical in person intimacy with a real woman more than he wants to get his sexual needs met via porn and put in the work to break this addiction.

He's pornified his brain - it's diminished his real life attraction to flesh and blood women. If he was serious about your relationship he would listen when you say that you want physical contact to resume, he would make an effort to kick the porn and get back to normal relations with you. If he doesn't do that, then he isn't serious. To be honest, I would have walked long before - after five months of non-intimacy that would have been enough for me. You've held out for a considerable period of time and nothing has changed - what is the definition of madness again - doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results - if you've tried talking to him, repeatedly, and you keep getting different 'reasons' but no different outcome then you need to draw the line. Don't waste any more time - there is someone better out there.

Do you really want a LTR, marriage and children with the man you describe in this post?

I wouldn't.

Ask him to leave he’s wasting your time. Is he financially benefiting from living with you?

I just couldn’t put up with it, at this point in life.
I think if there are/were other issues going on, then it would explain something at least.
I would try to discuss this with your partner, and after that, be cutting my losses.
Life is too short, things can change or someone thinks it’s okay at the point to be a bit less full on. But if it was okay and you was happy previously? Then something has changed.

Any gay porn by any chance?

He wanks over porn every day it's no wonder he cba with sex irl.

Op please show him the door, this will get worse and you deserve better .

Sorry but this is mental. If my partner would have stopped physical contact after 5 months in the relationship, I wouldn't have waited 2 weeks, let alone 2 years.

Break up and find someone else.

Dump him