Aibu dhs friend?

[aibuoramI]

Now I know how pathetic this sounds….

dh has a good friend, is mostly on the phone to him. The problem is the friend makes things about himself thats nothing to do with him.

Yesterday me and dh had a arugment, i had no idea he was on the phone (he was wearing ear buds) about something completely irrelevant (about him spending money without telling me - we share finances)
and his friend has completely made it about himself. Saying he wont call dh anymore because of me? That its to stressful as he heard me shouting and now has a headache? (It was a 2 minute arugment if that!)
Even though it was nothing to do with him?!
His friend has also been very strange when we have family round and says he doesnt like them, apparently they are the rude as they tried to talk him to him when he was round once?

aibu to tell dh that this friend is being ridiculous? It seems anything I do this friend has a serious problem with me or others. Its gotten to the point where I said to DH im reclucant to talk in my own home incase he makes it out to be about himself again.

i know this sounds ridiculous and no Im not a teenager! Im a fully grown woman with kids. 😟

Well were you shouting at your husband over him spending money? Must have escalated quickly if it only lasted 2 minutes. Why not just tell your DH to stop telling you what his friend says? Then there is no issue

No we spoke & dh was ignoring me so I shouted at him as I was cross he was ignoring me (another story) We spoke about it 10 minutes later and everything was sorted & fine. Dh apologised. Job done.

next thing I know, today hes telling me off as his friend is moaning at him and “cant be bothered”. I used to get on fine with his friend but took a major seat back when I started to see these behaviours.

Hopefully you apologised for shouting at your husband for something so trivial? He was on the phone, that’s why he didn’t respond! Then you shouted at him not knowing he was on the phone so that bit serves you right.

Tell DH it’s his problem if his friend is moaning about him and you don’t want to hear about it. DH could well be exaggerating to make a point to you for all you know.

I didnt know he was on the phone, he was wearing earbuds as stated in the post. I had no idea he was talking to him as I was upstairs sorting the kids piror & wasnt talking when I came downstairs. I dont think he’s exaggerating going by piror behaviour.

If he's mainly your DH friend by phone then that's a bit strange unless you're a long way apart. I don't think his friend likes sharing him with you

No they see each other in person too. I dont think so either but he can be like this with everyone once hes found a problem he will find a dozen more to moan about. Ive told dh now to apologise on my behalf for shouting, but from now he needs to either let me know hes on the phone - Its like his second wife.

Id be really fucked off with that. How were you supposed to know there was someone listening in?

At least the guy says he wont call anymore. Hopefully he sticks to it