To think this is all not normal

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Calling your five year old a bitch
telling aforementioned five year old to fuck off or shut the fuck up?
im being made to feel irrational for saying this is not alright?????!!

help

You absolutely need to get this man away from your daughter.

Well done for spotting this is not okay. This is SO far from okay. And no ‘just letting the anger out’ is not better than bottling it up. If he’s got anger that needs expressing, he needs to go for a run or something, release the emotion on his own, far, far away from your child or anyone else.

But to be honest a man who gets angry with a 5 year old and cannot control it is not a good father and chances are he never will be. You need to leave him, honey.

You know those women who love their man so much they stand by while he mistreats her children? Don’t be one of them.

I definitely don’t love him - he’s mean to me too 😂 just got to figure out an escape plan

How old is your baby?
Tell your perinatal team what is going on.

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Good luck, I know you can do this 💪 This thread will help you get started, so many women here will have good advice. There are charities that will help too xx

https://womensaid.org.uk

He's abusing your 5 year old in front of you. He's am abusive wanker. If you let this happen and remove her from his abuse you are complicit. You need to talk to domestic abuse charity like womans aid or the domestic abuse helpline and get out. How he treats her will shape how she allows men to treat her for her whole lifetime.

OP, there are four survival responses - fight, flight, freeze, fawn. Your daughter is fawning to placate her abuser, as she can't fight or run. Please don't mistake this for a genuinely close connection.

You've taken the important first step in realising this isn't OK. You can plan your escape and get your child out of this horrendous situation. You are strong enough.

Children are programmed to adore their parents. I adored my abusive father before I was old enough to know what a bastard he was.

Yep this in spades.

He will also think it fine if you tell his mum and his boss amd coworkers

Disgusting man

Oh this is heartbreaking 😢💔 She loves him and he calls her a bitch. This is why she needs an adult to look out for her and protect her because children are so forgiving of the adults closest to them when they abuse them. If it’s her dad she loves him because he’s her dad no matter what he says to her. It will definitely be affecting her.

That is absolutely bonkers. In the thick of PPD and sleep deprivation, I once screamed at my infant to shut the f* up. That was my rock bottom and let me know that I was unwell and I needed help.
If your DP thinks this behaviour and language is normal then he is not a safe adult for your little girl to be around and he needs to address his anger issues.
I'm so sorry for you and your DD having to live with this.

It’s emotional abuse.

If you continue to allow your child to be exposed to this level of terror you are complicit.

Contact women’s aid to help with a safety plan to leave.

Good luck OP, you got this 💐.