I have been with my partner for around a year and a half. It is a same sex relationship. We have our own separate places, around 20 minutes apart.
There are a few things that are really starting to put me off. Physically, there are habits that I am noticing, such as; a real declining effort of personal hygiene. She won’t shower for 2-3 days at a time and still expects to be intimate which I absolutely refuse to do until she has a wash. She has got in a rut of eating junk food and being quite greedy with food. For example, she will eat her food and then when finished, will constantly ask how my food is and hinting for some. Because of these things, she has put on quite a bit of weight too, and just makes no effort to look presentable. She also has started passing wind on purpose, multiple times a day, at really inappropriate times because she finds it funny. I just find it disrespectful.
Mentally, there has been an increasing neediness from her and she gets sulky if I don’t comply. For example, I have woken up today, had no plans or commitments and just wanted a nice and quiet chilled day. From the minute we woke up, I had one question after the other thrown at me, constantly being touched in one way or another, and I just wanted a breather because it felt extremely overwhelming (I was driving and she was literally stroking my arms and legs). And then when I go to take a step back and actually voice “please give me some personal space and not touch me for 5 minutes”, she puts on a face and sulks about it.
All of these things combined, I’m becoming less and less attracted to her to the point where we haven’t been intimate for almost a month because I feel a little repulsed by the idea.
AIBU?