to think teacher calling kids this is inappropriate?

[OWetOne]

My child(9) told me their teacher will call a child a wet wipe if the child is 'being a coward' (how my child explained it). My child wasn't offended and told me about it because they thought it was funny, but they obviously have never heard it being used before. I wouldn't want my child calling someone else a wet wipe.

Am I being a wet wipe? Or am I right to think this is inappropriate?

Andrew Tate language 😂

Personally not a big deal for me, children in year 9 call each other all sorts, much worse than wet wipe.

If you are concerned, then as a Pp said, gently raise with the teacher directly and see their response. If there’s now change escalate it as you see fit.

When I was in the 4th year at secondary (what’s that now, year 10?), form tutor lost it with the class and told us we were nothing more than “a bunch of whining fucking poofs”.

To those laughing at the AT reference, it’s literally the only time I have ever heard the term ‘wet wipe’ used as a derogatory term, ie when referenced in reports on manosphere issues! I have otherwise NEVER heard it used except to refer to the actual cleansing product. We clearly mix in very different circles

Its not the best term to use. There are others that make the point without being demeaning ( being a bit daft, silly Billy, lemon etc)

Yeah, I think 99.99% of people would not associate it with Andrew Tate.

A secondary teacher called my daughter a toad a few times. I introduced myself as Mrs Toad at parents evening just to make the point that possibly they wouldn't use these phrases on adults...

Are you OK?

No that’s inappropriate, and a pretty horrible thing to say to a child.

They've just morphed wet lettuce into wet wipe.

That's it.

🤣 It was a different world wasnt it. Don’t think anyone bore any scars

Yes, buy you are viewing the situation with a sense of perspective and a degree of sanity. The MO of many MNers is to ignore that they don't know certain critical information about a situation, and instead fill in the blanks with whatever assumptions they need to in order to arrive at the conclusion that there is abuse/bullying going on and that somebody needs to be sacked. If one of my kids said this but also that they weren't bothered then I wouldn't give it a moment's further thought.

Not unless Andrew Tate has been going for the last 15 or so years, no. It far pre dates him as a common phrase.

Wow. I really do feel sorry for teachers.

The upset on this thread created by a harmless phrase used by a respected experienced teacher (as per the OP), said to a child who was not in anyway upset (as per the OP).

Nuts

Banter is what bullies call bullying. There are ways of saying things that don't resort to name calling

Im glad that teachers arent allowed to throw chairs and board rubbers, or whack our knuckles with rulers anymore, but calling a kid a wet wipe seems like a pretty mild version of an insult. Like calling someone a wally. Almost an affectionate insult that youd call someone that you liked, but was doing something silly.

Teachers often use humour like this ime and its not a bad thing.

Dd's English teacher used to frequently call one of the pupils a prat. And the whole class would laugh. Dd did not find it funny - she felt very uncomfortable with the whole thing.

Or your alcoholic woodwork teacher, hungover in the first lesson, lobbing lumps of 4x2 at you if you dared to breathe

It's madness isn't it. I call the kids in my classes daft things all the time - I even give them nicknames. I wonder how many parents would be offended by me calling their kid Siri (has an answer for everything)! The kids (and Siri herself) love it.

Is this what we have become? Questioning everything someone says. Perhaps put yourself in the teachers shoes for once. Any of you want to teach, no, thought not.

It's banter. Classes with teenagers run well on banter. It isn't an offensive term but it's funny.

English teachers like to bandy around Shakespearean insults, no doubt some people would object to being called a spleany varlot.

Fgs people are offended by everything these days. I would have no problem with this at all! We're raising a generation of over sensitive wimps. I despair, I really do.

Yes! I had a boy many years ago I called My Little Pony because he had beautifully floppy hair. Another school, a student called Bad Girl, ironically because she was perfect. They are very much terms of endearment and foster relationships.

Being able to give and take mild teasing is very much a British value. We are famous for it internationally.

Bullying it is not, if both are in on the joke.

Some people clearly can't take a joke though.

Nonsense - I bet the teacher wouldn’t take it from a pupil.