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To quit one of my part-time jobs

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ElleDeeCB · 10/11/2025 11:27

AIBU:
You are being unreasonable - you should stay put until you find another part-time job

You are NOT being unreasonable - agree that it’s time to leave the job you dislike

I currently work two part-time jobs, doing essentially same role for two different employers but on different days. I started job 2 about two years ago, and worked very hard to prove myself in first year. It was more ‘prestigious’ employer, but salary almost 35% lower than job 1. I took the role because I thought it would be straightforward to do alongside job 1 but actually it has become increasingly demanding and more difficult to juggle both. I worked extremely hard and over-performed in first year of job 2, had lots of positive feedback, but was recently passed over for the promotion (that would have brought my salary in line with job 1). I’m growing resentful, feeling taken for granted, and distrusting of the employer. Also feeling a bit humiliated professionally tbh. I’m increasingly desperate to resign and am dreading going back after Christmas.

On the other hand, I don’t have another role to go to. Job 1 is unfortunately unlikely to increase my hours. Would it be better to ‘quiet quit’ and keep a low profile in Job 2 for as long as possible whilst taking home my mediocre salary?

There is also the factor that things at home have ramped up due to an upcoming house move, my husband having a very pressurised (though high paying) job, and a son with additional needs. I often think about the benefit to the family if I could put more of my time into supporting them and managing household things.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice for me?

thanks x

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BendingSpoons · 10/11/2025 11:31

What is your husband's view? How would you be impacted financially by the salary drop, given your DHs earnings too?

If the numbers work, I'd consider quitting job 2 and devoting that time to your home life instead.

IchiNiSanShiGo · 10/11/2025 11:34

If you’d be ok financially without the salary, I’d quit. Either continue with just 1 part time role, or spend some time looking for a better fit 2nd part time role.

DevilsAdvocate101 · 10/11/2025 11:38

Can you find one full time job which pays you more than both. It might give you good leave allowance and progression etc.

ElleDeeCB · 10/11/2025 11:39

Thanks @BendingSpoons I’d need to watch my personal outgoings a bit more carefully, but the overall financial impact to the family would be minimal. My husband would be less stressed as he has to juggle quite a bit of the childcare / cover kids sick days, school runs etc just so that I can get to work. He has never complained, but I feel it’s unfair that he is carrying the stress of a client-facing demanding job that we all rely on financially, as well as a lot of the domestics + childcare, to enable me to go to a job for which I’m under compensated.

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ElleDeeCB · 10/11/2025 11:42

@DevilsAdvocate101 They rarely come up, but yes i would definitely consider this especially in a few years time when our son is a bit more independent. I have been at Job1 for a long time and have great colleagues and excellent benefits (v good pension etc) that I wouldn’t want to give up unless something better came along…

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ElleDeeCB · 10/11/2025 13:11

Did anyone quit their job and regret it?

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Coconutter24 · 10/11/2025 13:15

ElleDeeCB · 10/11/2025 11:39

Thanks @BendingSpoons I’d need to watch my personal outgoings a bit more carefully, but the overall financial impact to the family would be minimal. My husband would be less stressed as he has to juggle quite a bit of the childcare / cover kids sick days, school runs etc just so that I can get to work. He has never complained, but I feel it’s unfair that he is carrying the stress of a client-facing demanding job that we all rely on financially, as well as a lot of the domestics + childcare, to enable me to go to a job for which I’m under compensated.

For these reasons alone I would quit the second job as long as my DH was ok with me taking a pay cut and being more available for home life

mummydoorgirl · 10/11/2025 13:36

I’d leave and give the reason that you are not remunerated in line with the same role at job 1. Tighten belt a bit and look for something better

Fairyladyonwheels · 10/11/2025 13:41

Based on your reasons, I would quit job 2, they are taking the mick it seems and don't go over board with job 2, they don't value you, do minimal and get out. You still have job 1, look at your outgoings and cut out unnecessary spending, worth looking at the best prices for car insurance, electric, water and so on. Not worth the misery of job to make you feel like this.

Welshmonster · 10/11/2025 13:44

If you can afford not to work then why work where you aren’t valued. Prestigious employer! What on earth is that if they don’t pay properly

YippyKiYay · 12/11/2025 06:33

I would def quit job2 if your number work out. There's no need to be so stressed if there's minimal financial benefit to your lives. You could def all be a lot happier it sounds, and there is no amount of money that can recompense that feeling.
My dh is stay at home now and we are soooo much better off mentally and physically. Financially ok, so check that first imo
Good luck
(And agree with trying to up your hours at job1 when and if it suits)

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