To think I ever wanted to start my period?!

[LondonLady1980]

I remember being a teenager when me and all my friends were so desperate to start our periods as it was such a milestone, the sure sign we were growing up and womanhood was beginning….

And now they’re the absolutely bane of my life.

1. The cramps, the headaches, the exhaustion.
2. The clots, the mess, the flooding.
3. Being confined to the house for at least 2 days.
4. Sitting on towels, clothes being ruined.
5. The endless washing.
6. The heating always being on to try and get all my period pants dry as I’m going through 5 pairs a day.
7. Waking up constantly throughout the night due to leaks.
8. The accompanying diarrhoea.
9. The anaemia.
10. Doctors really not caring how much it impacts your life.

The only good thing is that it gives me a valid excuse to cuddle a hot water bottle 24/7.

Mind you, another positive is that my two sons are going to be super sympathetic towards any future girlfriends as they witness every month the crap and misery I endure (and are very sweet about it).

I know the menopause is going to bring with it lots of negative experiences too (us women are so lucky aren’t we?!), but after 26 years of periods I am so done with them!

I know my experience of having periods isn’t the reality for all women, but it’s my reality and I wish they would fuck right off!

I feel better for the rant.

My heart goes out to all the women who have it worse than I do.

Currently sitting on a towel with my hot water bottle and feeling very sorry for myself.

I hate that women's bodies are so badly designed.

Right mother nature sees that having babies is the most important thing.

Which is why we have such frequent periods.

But why do we not have an organ like a bladder that stored menstrual blood?

Something that we can use to control the flow of blood. Instead of blood just leaking out od us continuously for five days.

And then we could go to the toilet and get rid of the blood at a convenient time.

Similiarly to how we pee out urine

I am deliberately ignoring the posts that imply we are just too stupid to know what products to use and that’s why our periods are as bad as they are.

the scary thing is , it might not even be a wind-up, some WOMEN (let alone men) are that stupid and ignorant.

I also spend time just sitting on the toilet because it’s easier it’s easier than dealing with the alternative.

There’s nothing worse than being soaked in blood and feeling sticky, spending ages cleaning myself up, cleaning the toilet, changing my clothes, sorting myself out and leaving the bathroom to then experience another flood, or clot blow-out within five minutes and having to repeat the process all over again (over and over again).

I’d much prefer to just sit on the toilet for an hour with a good book and just let the blood and clots drip out without causing me any bother. I thought I was the only one 🤣

I’m 58 and still getting regular periods. I’m sick of it. A doctor (no prize for guessing male or female) asked me “why do you want your periods to stop?” My eyes nearly rolled out of my head.

BECAUSE IVE BEEN HAVIBG THEM FOR 45 YEARS and IM SICK TO THE BACK TEETH OF THEM!

Having said that op I don’t have it as bad as you do so you have my female solidarity and sympathy.

I actually don’t. I have very heavy periods but my flow stops in water. Problem is once I come out the bath I tend to get a flood.

If I could go back in time I would have had one at 18-21, once I'd saved every penny to pay for it.

I'm 53 now, and I'd be soooo in profit I could buy a car, instead of stocking up on painkillers/pads every shop.

If it’s any consolation, I had terrible periods too, the absolute bane of my life but a completely trouble free menopause, although it was a surgical one due to a full hysterectomy. (Though Google says surgical can result in worse menopause so I was very lucky to have zero symptoms especially taking into consideration how terrible my periods were).

Lol lol I’m glad I am not the only one then. I used to watch so many YouTube videos on periods before mine had started, I had even bought panty liners, pads and tampons and everything. The worst parts of periods for me is that sudden gushing feeling when you’re terrified that it has soaked through to your jeans.

Cannot relate. I was never desperate to start my period or to grow up. I enjoyed my childhood and wasn’t desperate for it to end.

I still don’t look forward to my period.

How long does it take to recover from a hysterectomy?

Try using a tampon or putting a pad inside the period pants. I never freely flow into period pants and it also prevents leaking onto sheets and clothes. The only thing that has lightened my flow is the mini pill.

I remember a post on here before where a woman had to explain to her male friend about this. Apparently he basically made out girls/women were disgusting for "letting themselves leak blood." Why couldn't they just hold it? Apparently it's not common knowledge to males that we don't leak for the fun of it🙄 seems like some women also think we're too stupid to mange our periods too🤨

Because your flow doesn’t stop. The water pressure must be enough to stop it coming out of your vaginal opening, but it’s still flowing out of your uterus and backing up in your vagina ready to flood out when gravity allows. If you sneeze in the bath you’ll realise the “period stopping in water” thing is bollocks 🤣

Its hard being a woman. I am 41. I have very painful periods and I also have pain the week before my period and the week after my period.

I think i have about one week when im not in pain. Ive been to the doctors several times about this and i have been brushed off every time.

So incompetent. I went to one doctor complaining about womb pain. He sent mw in for a scan

When i went to the hospital for the scan, they thought i had general stomach pain and they looked at my stomach and bowels on the scan. Not my womb! I told them "the pain is in my womb". I got brushed off again

Different for different people. I had a difficult recovery but it was still such a relief to never have periods again.

Not much sign of it here, and my mum was 48 when hers stopped...I'm 53 and still wasting a lot of money on being female.

Sorry for being a downer. 🍕🍫🍻

But that poster didnt write about periods stopping.

She wrote that it was stupid to think that we don't BLEED in the water.

She wrote, "we one idiotic comment away from "you can't bleed in the water, you don't need tampons in the bath"

I think it's correct to write that many women do not bleed into the water, when they are on their period. Because of water pressure.

I was having a very heavy period last week. I was on holiday. I knew about the water pressure thing. I went into the swimming pool for an hour with no protection and didnt bleed into the water at all.

When i got out, i had time to get to the bathroom and put a pad on. I didny leak everywhere, the second i got out

She said her flow stops in water. Of course it doesn’t. And that was my point.

But it's different to say that some women don't bleed (lucky them)- and that no woman can or will bleed in the bath.

Some women could use a mini tampax for an entire day too -periods are different for everybody.

It is idiotic to state that "you can't bleed in the water". Maybe some won't, but you can and many women do, that's the point I was making.

Put it another way, with or without tampon, I don't take bath for the worst 3 or 4 days of my periods and frankly I never will. Hot water helps with period pain, so I wish I could take baths.

I've had a pretty easy time of it with periods.
I get bad pain for 1/2 a day, and only need to use 2 tampons for my entire period - 1 on day 1, 1 on day 2 - because they are so light (and have always been).
I do remember being at school and seeing the blood in my underwear that first time and thinking I'd "arrived"!
Now I'm in my early 40s, I guess I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum and am anxious about my periods stopping for good and it being the end of a particular phase of my life.

Ahhh no you’re not alone. When I’m wfh I often end up taking my work phone to the loo so I can at least respond to emails while I’m losing bits of my body!
Ive slept sitting up on the toilet in the past with my head resting against the cupboard door just to save myself from additional inevitable changes. Not a full night, just an hour or two.

But it’s pretty shitty.

And I’m due on in a couple of days right as I embark on a long haul flight 😭

I don't remember who wrote the original post.But what she wrote is right.

I just think you misread what she wrote.

I think she meant that the flow of The blood coming out of her, (that other people can see), stops when she is in the water.

Not for all woman. But that is what happens to her.

No one thinks that their period actually stops altogether, when they are in the water

I don't bother commenting on these threads, but when smug posters calling themselves feminist pretend women only get their bikini area waxed etc.. because of the patriarchy, I laugh. There are many reasons why some of us like to be neat down there, and periods are a big one!

I got my period recently and as I was on holiday, I decided to free bleed on a towel for a while. I was astounded at the actual amount of blood that comes out.

Because I remember in school being taught that we only lose 2-3 tablespoons of blood. (Probably written by a man) . I think i could have filled a mug with this period. It was a huge amount of blood

Such little study and research have been done on periods. A lot more research is needed