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Travelling to US when pregnant

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Vintagegoth · 10/11/2025 08:16

Someone I know who is pregnant is travelling to the US, specifically Texas, for several months. I expressed surprise that they would choose to do that considering the mess that is the law around abortion and women's reproductive health in the US at the moment. My husband says IABU. What do people think?

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ysette9 · 10/11/2025 14:30

Genevieva · 10/11/2025 12:29

I think the most relevant fact here is that the United States has some of the best healthcare in the world for pregnant mothers and pre-term babies. As long as she is suitably insured she will be fine.

As an American, I find this comment surprising. America is known to have high maternal and foetal death rates as compared to other developed countries. Some quick stats:
Maternal death rate per 100,000

UK - 9.8
US - 21.1
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_maternal_mortality_ratio

Foetal death rate per 100,000

UK - 3,800
US - 5,100
https://www.cia.gov/the-world-factbook/field/infant-mortality-rate/country-comparison/

There is good healthcare available for some people in the US, especially if you are white and wealthy. The rates above mask significant inequalities in outcomes based on skin colour.

List of countries by maternal mortality ratio - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_maternal_mortality_ratio

Genevieva · 10/11/2025 14:41

ysette9 · 10/11/2025 14:30

As an American, I find this comment surprising. America is known to have high maternal and foetal death rates as compared to other developed countries. Some quick stats:
Maternal death rate per 100,000

UK - 9.8
US - 21.1
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_maternal_mortality_ratio

Foetal death rate per 100,000

UK - 3,800
US - 5,100
https://www.cia.gov/the-world-factbook/field/infant-mortality-rate/country-comparison/

There is good healthcare available for some people in the US, especially if you are white and wealthy. The rates above mask significant inequalities in outcomes based on skin colour.

Hence why the most important issue is excellent health insurance when visiting. Most British people don’t think about this very much because we are used to free (taxpayer funded) healthcare and have never been asked for a credit card to receive care. That’s why you see stories every so often about naïve Brits abroad stranded after holidaying without comprehensive health insurance for their trip.

Whammyammy · 10/11/2025 14:50

Good lord, she's traveling to the U.S, not visiting a remote tribe on the amazon. So long as she has adequate medical insurance to cover her during her stay, what's the issue.

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 10/11/2025 14:51

Whammyammy · 10/11/2025 14:50

Good lord, she's traveling to the U.S, not visiting a remote tribe on the amazon. So long as she has adequate medical insurance to cover her during her stay, what's the issue.

The issue is that Texas hospitals will prioritise the life of the baby at all costs, even if that means the mother dies.

Nmnns · 10/11/2025 14:57

She's not travelling there for an abortion right? She wants the baby, she'll be fine.

If the baby is born on us soil isn't it a us citizen?

outerspacepotato · 10/11/2025 15:01

As someone who worked maternal child health in Tx and it's far worse now, if I was pregnant I would avoid that state like it's a prion disease.

purplecorkheart · 10/11/2025 15:05

It certainly not a choice that I would make particularly for a few months.

The other thing that would concern me was getting into the States at all. You hear of people being turned away from the boarder for minor reasons. If she is not an American I would worry that she could be turned away from the Boarder as it might appear she wants to have her baby there so it would get American Citzenship.

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 10/11/2025 15:09

Nmnns · 10/11/2025 14:57

She's not travelling there for an abortion right? She wants the baby, she'll be fine.

If the baby is born on us soil isn't it a us citizen?

She'll be fine if she doesn't end up in hospital or with complications.

If she does, well, all bets are off. The baby will be the priority, even if that means she's left brain dead as an incubator, or she's allowed to die simply because the baby still has a heartbeat, even if it's not a viable pregnancy.

C152 · 10/11/2025 15:11

I agree with you, OP; it's not a risk I would take.

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/11/2025 15:31

Genevieva · 10/11/2025 12:29

I think the most relevant fact here is that the United States has some of the best healthcare in the world for pregnant mothers and pre-term babies. As long as she is suitably insured she will be fine.

Texas doesn’t. At least twice the maternal mortality of the UK, before these changes. US overall is worse than the UK. Complicated by racism of course. Black women being the most at risk.

https://www.texaswhc.org/activities/texas-maternal-health/

Texas Maternal Health - Texas Women's Healthcare Coalition

The Texas Maternal Mortality and Morbidity Review Committee (MMMRC) and the Department of State Health Services (DSHS) released their 2024 Biennial Report, offering a detailed look into maternal health trends across the state.

https://www.texaswhc.org/activities/texas-maternal-health/

Genevieva · 10/11/2025 15:56

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/11/2025 15:31

Texas doesn’t. At least twice the maternal mortality of the UK, before these changes. US overall is worse than the UK. Complicated by racism of course. Black women being the most at risk.

https://www.texaswhc.org/activities/texas-maternal-health/

Indeed - US health data needs to be broken down to see whether the patient cohort were affluent enough to have health insurance or relies on Medicaid.

Jc2001 · 10/11/2025 16:14

DorisTheFinkasaurus · 10/11/2025 11:51

She’s booked a holiday, not an abortion. Relax.

You seem to have totally missed the point.

PhuckTrump · 10/11/2025 16:25

justteanbiscuits · 10/11/2025 11:02

A very close friend has recently moved from Texas to a much more caring state after falling foul of the draconian 'abortion' laws.

At 6 +3 weeks pregnant she developed pain. An ultrasound showed that it was sadly a tubal ectopic pregnancy. Even more sadly, as her only symptom was relatively mild pain, they wouldn't end the pregnancy until her life was at risk. She had to wait till she was 11 weeks pregnant, with a pregnancy that would never result in a live birth, and ended up having surgery. She had to spend 5 weeks pregnant, knowing that her tube could rupture at any point, where as at 6 weeks pregnant it could have all been dealt with, with abortion pills, with no risk.

Yes, it's an anecdotal story. But it's terrifying.

This. Doctors are too scared to be accused of performing an “abortion” and getting struck off or sent to prison, so they will wait until the woman is at death’s door before they will treat her. Covering their own arses at the expense of pregnant women.

Nmnns · 10/11/2025 16:39

What are the actual chances that something goes wrong (which we all hope it doesn't), and the only solution is a termination?

Quite low right?

Wallaw1 · 10/11/2025 16:42

I'm American, but live in the UK.

I'd say there are a lot of relevant details missing that could have an impact on whether YABU, and the truth is, you can express concern, but she's going to do what she feels is appropriate.

How far along in the pregnancy is she/will she be while there?
Has she had any complications this far?
Does she have good insurance and/or funds to easily travel to another state should there be non-emergency complications?
Where in Texas is she going - city or rural, if city, which one?
Is she white British?

If it's a healthy pregnancy and she's out of the first trimester but not approaching the last, the odds are she'll be fine.

That said, it's not a choice I'd make.

There's also this
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/texas-abortion-ob-gyn-doctor-training-60-minutes/

How Texas's abortion laws are driving doctors out of the state

Doctors in Texas potentially face huge fines, life in prison and losing their license because of the state's strict abortion laws.

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/texas-abortion-ob-gyn-doctor-training-60-minutes/

YourBlueShark · 10/11/2025 16:43

SomethingInTheAirToday · 10/11/2025 08:19

Don’t do it. Any sort of pregnancy complication could end up being deadly.

Agreed. I'm American and live in the US, and I would not recommend doing this. Women really have been dying from pregnancy complications (not seeking abortion care) in some states with strict abortion laws/bans. The laws are so vague that healthcare providers aren't sure what they legally can and can't do, and it's beginning to become much more difficult to find maternal healthcare in some states, including Texas.

AlbertaWildRose · 10/11/2025 16:44

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 10/11/2025 08:53

I wouldn’t go anywhere near Texas, pregnant or not.

I was just about to say this too. No way would I go there right now.

Bigcat25 · 10/11/2025 16:45

Insurance can be picky about what Drs they'll cover too. You may arrange a procedure and find it won't be covered, this is particularly common in emerg care, so no I wouldn't go there when pregnant. I was just listening to a podcaster talking about not being covered for an operation even though she had expensive insurance.

Will your friend be purchasing insurance?

Wallaw1 · 10/11/2025 16:48

justteanbiscuits · 10/11/2025 11:32

So you are calling me a liar because your experience was different?

Her tube ruptured at 11 +1, which is when they finally operated on her. Yes, there is a high risk of death - but they would not end the pregnancy until there was a clear risk to life. That is the entire point.

@OVienna I have a close friend who lives, not in Texas but another state with a draconian abortion bill, who recently had an ectopic. She was told they basically had to wait for her tube to rupture before they could intervene. Fortunately, she had the ability to travel to another state where she was treated as an emergency and her tube was saved.

The irony of potentially costing women their fertility in these situations is beyond belief.

beAsensible1 · 10/11/2025 16:50

Genevieva · 10/11/2025 08:21

I thought your concern was going to be the cost of healthcare if she or her baby become unwell. They have excellent healthcare in the US, but it’s expensive. Abortion laws are irrelevant to her and probably an offensive thing to bring up with a women who is pregnant with a baby she wants to keep.

not really, as it informs the level of care she will receive in the case of emergency.

OVienna · 10/11/2025 16:51

Wallaw1 · 10/11/2025 16:48

@OVienna I have a close friend who lives, not in Texas but another state with a draconian abortion bill, who recently had an ectopic. She was told they basically had to wait for her tube to rupture before they could intervene. Fortunately, she had the ability to travel to another state where she was treated as an emergency and her tube was saved.

The irony of potentially costing women their fertility in these situations is beyond belief.

Fuck me, that is crazy. I had heard rumours of people saying they could reposition an ectopic but a ruptured tube will kill women.

WonderlandWasAllAHoax · 10/11/2025 17:04

Nmnns · 10/11/2025 16:39

What are the actual chances that something goes wrong (which we all hope it doesn't), and the only solution is a termination?

Quite low right?

Yes, the chances are low, but the consequences could quite literally be deadly.

Ponderingwindow · 10/11/2025 17:37

I live in the U.S. I am lucky enough to be in a state where abortion is still protected. Wanted pregnancies are now much riskier. In many states doctors have to wait to intervene until a mother is dangerously ill. This is not about a woman’s right to choose abortion. It is about having safe medical care if a pregnancy is not progressing properly and a woman faces losing her fertility or even death.