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Millennialpause · 2025-11-10T08:08:48+00:00

So my son, aged 7, just eats a sandwich and maybe a piece of fruit every day, meaning I’m sending in snacks every day that don’t get touched. Aibu to just send in a sandwich and a piece of fruit? He says he doesn’t have long to eat lunch, so the snacks just come home untouched (and often if it’s a yoghurt or something it needs to go in the bin which seems a shame)

Kirbert2 · 11/11/2025 20:22

Millennialpause · 11/11/2025 20:03

So the snacks they aren’t allowed are crisps, cakes, chocolate bars, anything which is deemed ‘junk food.’ They aren’t meant to have processed meat every day, I used to send a Peperami but apparently that’s not ok every day (even if it’s the same one making return journeys!). He likes to follow the rules, he only takes water to drink, and I am pleased he eats the sandwich and fruit that’s what I would serve at home anyway, so it is just for appearances. But I would really rather not have an awkward call about his packed lunches, and avoid any unnecessary attention from the pastoral or safeguarding people at school, for the sake of a wasted cheese string or yoghurt I think I would rather just pay that ‘tax’ but it does seem silly to me at the same time to be wasting things, when a sandwich and piece of fruit is a normal lunch in my book!

That is very strict. My son has a limited diet and eats a ham sandwich, crisps etc pretty much every day.

It is silly but I'd probably just throw in something that will probably go to waste to save an awkward discussion like you say.

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 11/11/2025 20:30

I really don't think a designated safeguarding lead is going to care about a child eating a good sandwich and a piece of fruit.

We have pupils turn up with a cold McDonald's happy meal. Those are the parents who get a phone call.

GagMeWithASpoon · 11/11/2025 21:01

Millennialpause · 11/11/2025 20:03

So the snacks they aren’t allowed are crisps, cakes, chocolate bars, anything which is deemed ‘junk food.’ They aren’t meant to have processed meat every day, I used to send a Peperami but apparently that’s not ok every day (even if it’s the same one making return journeys!). He likes to follow the rules, he only takes water to drink, and I am pleased he eats the sandwich and fruit that’s what I would serve at home anyway, so it is just for appearances. But I would really rather not have an awkward call about his packed lunches, and avoid any unnecessary attention from the pastoral or safeguarding people at school, for the sake of a wasted cheese string or yoghurt I think I would rather just pay that ‘tax’ but it does seem silly to me at the same time to be wasting things, when a sandwich and piece of fruit is a normal lunch in my book!

Is he starving at home time? Is he complaining he’s hungry in the afternoons at school?
If the answer is no to both, then he is fine. No school will waste precious resources on a kid that’s fine. And if for whatever reasons they would, just tell them that they don’t allow the snacks he would eat (crisps for example) so it’s their choice.