Am I just too sensitive?

[Nollyroa]

Maybe I just feel the need for a rant, but want to know if other husbands do this:

Here's the scenario, we have been watching the tv, turned it off ready to start getting ready for bed.

We start having a ridiculous discussion about how a deer can hurt you if you hit it with a car/van. I said because I thought that there would be very little chance a deer could come through the windshield that the deer would be pushed away from the car. DH then took it upon himself to prove me wrong. He looked up statistics on his phone and I said “okay yeah right” and got up to move from the sofa. He then said “where are you going? Look there’s a video”

I was just immensely fucked off, and I said to him “why would you go to so much trouble to prove me wrong? To prove that your wife was in the wrong and show her a video to show her how wrong she was?” I said “okay fair enough” but that wasn’t enough, I had to be shown. I got my things together and went to bed, we have not spoke to each other since.

Am I in the wrong?

It’s not a lecture and you could just walk away from a video. If your husband said that all menopausal women are just making up their pain, or that periods aren’t painful or annoying, would you just say ok? I wouldn’t and I’d probably put some facts out there or show him a video!

Were you both a bit over tired? Sounds like one of those bollocks rows people have when it's been a long day.
To add to the story, my DH work friend was in a very serious deer/car collision where the deer came through the windscreen. She was in a coma for three weeks and seriously injured, so it does happen. Not sure of the stats though!

Hardly a similar comparison. 50% of the population will have some form of MP symptoms at some point. Hitting a deer is a rare one off that doesn't warrant needing to prove someone right or wrong.

There's actually lots of deer near to where I live. And I was blissfully unaware of how much damage they can cause when they get in the way of a car, for years. Perhaps most people are? A video would demonstrate it though. So, sounds fine to me.

Nope, not men v. women. It’s just a personality thing.

Also, there’s a difference between expressing an opinion and stating a fact. If you suggest that (eg) blue is a nicer colour than a red, that’s an opinion and of course you’re entitled to it and can’t be proved wrong. That would be a discussion that cannot be settled one way or the other.

But if you suggest that (eg) Queen Victoria is still alive or the moon is made of cheese, and insist that your husband is incorrect to say otherwise, that isn’t a discussion of opinion. It’s simply you being wrong about a fact that’s very easily proven, and can be settled very easily.

Any chance you've got a husband who's always right and you don't feel he respects your experience/point of view? So you end up being contrary to everything he says, he does the same and so you feel like you're fighting constant battles over the most ridiculous things?

My mum hit a deer once in her car and it broke the windshield, caused the car to veer off the road, she could easily have been seriously injured but luckily she wasn’t. The car was a write off. I would have thought it’s pretty obvious that you could be badly hurt by hitting a deer. They can get pretty big. However, more to the point, it would drive me mad if anyone, let alone someone who’s supposed to love me, would look up statistics and videos just to prove me wrong. How pathetic. I can’t stand people who “just have to be right” all the time. He could have easily said let’s just agree to disagree, it’s not like it was a disagreement about anything that’s actually relevant to your lives. If I was one of those mental pearl clutching MNers I’d be saying LTB 🤣🤣 but obviously in the real world just tell him he’s really childish for doing it