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DH is using community pantry for free food

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cookingaroast · 08/11/2025 20:12

There is a community pantry in our village, with the purpose being to cut food waste. I completely support cutting down on food waste, and the food provided is all from supermarkets who would otherwise throw the food out. My issue is more I'm a bit uncomfortable with us taking the food.
We are both in the tech industry and both fall into the higher tax bracket for our salaries, more than capable of paying for food ourselves.

I've said to DH I don't think we should be utilising this resource and leave the food for others who need it more than us but he loves the bargains (free food) he gets from it. He genuinely wants to show off the stuff he's picked up whenever he goes - which is usually once a week.

I guess I feel a bit uncomfortable that this free food could be a lifeline to people. I do like charity shopping and getting a bargain but I don't feel as bad, as I'm paying what they decide they feel it's worth and the money is going to charity. This is completely free and run by volunteers.

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XenoBitch · 15/11/2025 23:42

Needmorelego · 15/11/2025 23:39

There was a post on one of my Facebook groups yesterday for one of the local anti food waste schemes.
A massive amount of Greggs left overs available.
The post literally said "First Come, First Served".
Definitely didn't say "oh but you must be poor"
😂

I am surprised to hear of a Greggs with left over food. My local one has the shelves swiped by shoplifters all the time.

Needmorelego · 16/11/2025 00:23

XenoBitch · 15/11/2025 23:42

I am surprised to hear of a Greggs with left over food. My local one has the shelves swiped by shoplifters all the time.

Yes you'd think they'd always sell out (plus the stealing thing 🙁).
Going by the photo on the Facebook post it was a massive amount of sausage rolls.
I'm guessing someone ordered too many.

Roobarbtwo · 16/11/2025 11:08

Needmorelego · 15/11/2025 23:39

There was a post on one of my Facebook groups yesterday for one of the local anti food waste schemes.
A massive amount of Greggs left overs available.
The post literally said "First Come, First Served".
Definitely didn't say "oh but you must be poor"
😂

That's downright hilarious

Needmorelego · 16/11/2025 11:33

Roobarbtwo · 16/11/2025 11:08

That's downright hilarious

Just to point out the town that Facebook post was from has several (actual) food banks - some you do require referral but some are charities based on the honesty of those requesting food and some are church based.

Needmorelego · 16/11/2025 11:53

Roobarbtwo · 16/11/2025 11:08

That's downright hilarious

I hope you didn't think I was being rude.
Apologies if you did 🙂
My point (and essentially the whole argument of this thread) is that Community Pantries are for anyone and everyone.

ChristinaXYZ · 16/11/2025 12:18

EchoedSilence · 08/11/2025 20:16

If it's to stop food waste I don't see a problem.

Better that OP's husband takes it than if it sits there rotting. It depends on the demand. Is it really being used only by the near destitute? It is not the food bank where you need to qualify surely?

Tekknonan · 16/11/2025 12:21

It depends if the food would go to waste or not.

SheinIsShite · 16/11/2025 12:23

Tekknonan · 16/11/2025 12:21

It depends if the food would go to waste or not.

Is there a brick wall in the community pantry that I can bang my head off?

Gummy7 · 16/11/2025 12:32

I know you've said that this is open to all but I don't think your dh should be taking food, given your financial circumstances. Suggest he drops off the food to a homeless shelter or a donation centre. At least that way those who are really in need will benefit from the food.

BringBackCatsEyes · 16/11/2025 12:46

Gummy7 · 16/11/2025 12:32

I know you've said that this is open to all but I don't think your dh should be taking food, given your financial circumstances. Suggest he drops off the food to a homeless shelter or a donation centre. At least that way those who are really in need will benefit from the food.

I'm pretty sure shelters or donation centres don't want crates of bread and pastries about to go out of date, or piles of say red peppers many of which are a bit squishy. This misguided charity likely creates more work for the shelter and centre staff.

Gummy7 · 16/11/2025 12:54

BringBackCatsEyes · 16/11/2025 12:46

I'm pretty sure shelters or donation centres don't want crates of bread and pastries about to go out of date, or piles of say red peppers many of which are a bit squishy. This misguided charity likely creates more work for the shelter and centre staff.

No, I'm sure they don't, unless they have large freezers to freeze food. He could always check to see what's needed as I agree that leaving large amounts of food at shelters at short notice isn't helpful, if it can't be used quickly.

Bipitybopitybo · 16/11/2025 12:59

Gummy7 · 16/11/2025 12:32

I know you've said that this is open to all but I don't think your dh should be taking food, given your financial circumstances. Suggest he drops off the food to a homeless shelter or a donation centre. At least that way those who are really in need will benefit from the food.

It is open to all for a reason. Because community fridges if they are just for those in need are often throwing away a huge amount of perishable goods. My organisation has a canteen and staff are offered up veg, bread and pastries that are about to go off. They have stated they have offered to local charities and they do not want them. If OPs husband does need to assuage his middle class guilt I would suggest look out for wishlishts of local food banks - they are often looking for things like rice, pasta, long life milk and cereals

CraftyGin · 16/11/2025 13:34

Jijithecat · 15/11/2025 20:43

I echo this after spending the morning of my day off finding somewhere to take the food that hasn't been taken.

Once again, please take the bread!

According to a BBC show which took place in a Warburton's factory, the UK produces around twice the amount of bread the population eats. BBC One - Inside the Factory, Series 9, Sliced Bread

Supermarkets deliberately over order so that they have all the different varieties in stock. They know they can offload the extra to community pantries rather than paying their own disposal costs. Of course, the community pantries can't give it away either, or if they do, the recipients don't actually get round to eating it.

BBC One - Inside the Factory, Series 9, Sliced Bread

Presenter Paddy McGuinness is at the Warburtons factory, where he worked as a teenager.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0026q82

SumUp · 22/11/2025 22:44

CraftyGin · 16/11/2025 13:34

According to a BBC show which took place in a Warburton's factory, the UK produces around twice the amount of bread the population eats. BBC One - Inside the Factory, Series 9, Sliced Bread

Supermarkets deliberately over order so that they have all the different varieties in stock. They know they can offload the extra to community pantries rather than paying their own disposal costs. Of course, the community pantries can't give it away either, or if they do, the recipients don't actually get round to eating it.

If we really cared about conserving resources and building a healthy economy, supermarkets would receive heavy penalties to deter this wastefulness.

Bipitybopitybo · 29/11/2025 07:50

Just saw this advertising my local community fridge

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