Double Beds

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Be honest - do you really enjoy sharing your sleeping space with a (usually) snoring, shifting, sighing, getting up at least twice a night man, or would you prefer your own space? I hate sharing my bed - hate him trying to cuddle me when I am trying to sleep - I am a very light sleeper though!

i do not, hence I have my own room, and he has his. It s the only way to sleep well. I don't miss the snoring, or the farting (can still hear both even with a corridor between us)

Double beds are too small for 2 adults. I only share mine with ddog its big enough for us both

Me & DH have had separate rooms for a couple of years. I go to bed at least an hour before him, I’m the one getting up generally twice a night, we both snore, I’m a light sleeper and I get up at least an hour before him. The only time we share a bed now is when we’re on holiday or staying at a relative’s house and then neither of us sleeps that well.
Do what works for you if you have a spare room.

My parents and my sister and her hubby all sleep in separate rooms and love it, wish we had the space to. I have a super king size bed which I wish I had when the kids were little! We also sleep with 2 single duvets on it to stop my husband from hogging all the covers! He snores, clicks, farts (obviously I never fart I’m a lady!) but I’m the one who gets up for the loo twice a night!

I do - I like the closeness of it, and waking up to see him reading, or watching cartoons on his phone - but DH doesn’t fart or snore or shift around in bed, and we’re both very easy sleepers, very little disturbs our sleep.

A double bed is too small for two adults.

Double beds are too small.

One single bed is 3ft across. A double bed is 4ft 6 ins. So a child in a single bed gets 3ft. 2 adults get 2ft 3ins each

Need at least a king but finding the space.

I moved into DSs room when he left home

Nope. I sleep much better alone in cold, dark, still and quiet. A super-king sized bed helped but separate beds was the best solution.

It’s a space issue though - lots of rooms can only fit a double and not everyone has the luxury of an extra bedroom.

I love sharing a double bed with DH.....we slept in a king-size last night at a hotel and I didn't like it!
Married 22 years.

This exactly. You always get a king size on holiday and the other person seems miles away. Even worse with a soft mattress - it's a fight to get across to them.

No, and we sleep separately in separate rooms.
Also, for nights when we do sleep together, the bed is superkingsize.
No way could I share a double bed with anyone on a long term basis.
The odd night in a hotel I can do but thats about it.

DH and I shared a UK king (US queen) at home. It was the right size throughout our marriage. Just big enough to avoid killing each other. :)

[read Matthew Mcconaughey www.today.com/parents/matthew-mcconaughey-marriage-tip-queen-size-bed-rcna233504.

On holiday, we could squeeze into a US double/UK queen but it was a short term thing and a point of pride since all my US relatives were too fat to manage it!
Sadly, DH is no longer. As I'm throwing off the covers for a hot flash and sprawling across our bed, I wonder how I ever managed. But if he were still here, I'd still be holding still on my side and sharing politely, fully determined not to ruin his sleep even if I wasn't having any. I do miss DH but when those hot flashes hit, I don't miss sharing a bed.

King size and I have the large half of the bed it works for us.

I’ve got a wife so maybe different. But we both sleep much better when we are together tbh. Double was always more than enough, although we have upgraded to a king now we have 2 children!

How 2 adults sleep comfortably in a double is beyond me, we upgraded from a king to a superking and it’s bliss. You can stretch out and turn over without disturbing your DH, in fact you don’t even feel the bed move. We had a few nights away recently in a cottage in a double, it was awful.

I share with a thin 6yo but manage to find myself on the edge of the bed while she stretches out 😭😭😭

Still, I think its better than a man 🤭

Edit. We have a king. Definitely go super king if you can xx

I love sharing a bed with my partner! I have a double bed and while, yes, it can get a bit close to one of us falling off of the edge of it, I honestly couldn't imagine sleeping alone anymore. I find his snoring and shifting comforting, and if he gets out of bed, I often wake up and find him so we can snuggle up together again

I can’t sleep in a double, has to be a king size, even on my own. Which is truly brilliant most of the time. Calm, peaceful and comfortable.
Do miss cuddling though and compromises can be made if it’s the right person. It’s not easy sharing a bed with someone after you’ve been single a long time. So choose wisely.

DH and I have been married for 27 years and have had separate rooms for about 18 of those. No way could I share a room with him, let alone a bed. He snores and farts and only has a lightweight duvet on the bed, even in the depths of winter. No thanks!

No. I have narcolepsy but I’m actually a very light sleeper. I can’t share my bed with anyone but the cat!
I just don’t sleep well at all with another human in the bed with me.

Sometimes I like sharing a bed, sometimes I like sleeping on my own.

We have two rooms with emperor sized beds, so we get to decide what to do on any given day. Best of all worlds.

I love sharing my bed with dh. I love his warmth, his smell, his solid presence. The one thing I would change is his snoring. Dh is a healthy weight, fit, does not smoke, barely drinks, but his snoring is getting worse and worse. He even snores lying on his side! Not every night, fortunately.

I would hate to sleep away from him. (Though sometimes, when he’s snoring away at 3am…)

We sleep in the same room and have an EU king bed with two single mattresses on it, so I don't feel him turning and vice versa. My firm mattress suits my back and he has a softer one.

Generally, I dislike being physically close to others and am very keen on personal space, but I really love sharing a bed with my DP. I sleep fine without him, but I’d hate to have separate rooms or separate beds. I’m completely unbothered by his (loud!) snoring and find it strangely soothing. We don’t cuddle all night or anything, but we do usually cuddle/spoon for a bit and talk before we turn over and properly settle to go to sleep. It doesn’t bother me if he gets up in the night. I love waking up with him in the morning. And I love the easy access for spontaneous sex.

Our bed’s a standard double.

Dislike of sharing a bed with one’s partner is something I only really hear about on Mumsnet, rather than in real life. Until Mumsnet I had no idea so many people hated it. Obviously people should do whatever works for them, provided they’ve got the space, and shouldn’t feel pressure to share if they hate it, though.