To ask how to pep my life up.

[Wherearetheflowers]

38. No children. No relationship. Have a lovely dog.

feeling so flat and just looking for ways to pep my life up. Am a good two stone over weight and eat far too much sugar and spend too much time on my phone. Not a whole load of friends - trying to instil better boundaries and distance myself from those who are quite selfish and use. Have definitely been a people pleaser in the past.

want to set myself goals that I can achieve by the end of the year - to make me feel good about myself, give my life some meaning and that might add to it a bit.

help me mumsnet. What can I do to just inject life with a bit more enjoyment.

Three different goals

1. feel good about myself - getting a good hair cut, doing some exercise, something nice to wear that actually fits, take up a hobby, join a book club. These are small and quick things to do that don’t rely on you losing weight (you can do that too but it takes time)
2. giving life meaning - doing something for others, volunteering maybe, or challenge yourself - sign up for a course, raise money for charity
3. Enjoyment - the friends you have, the real ones, put some dates in the diary and have something to look forward to.

Aaah im a little similar! What i find helps me (in regards to having a clean out) is to set small but achievable goals. So i will say i will fill up one bin bag or one bag of clothes that i dont wear anymore. It doesnt feel overwhelming. If i say it to my mum im even more likely to csrry it through. I also did that yesterday with a book i got from the library. Ill just read one chapter at lunch time...if i read more then great. But its a small win and i did what i said!
So like the other poster suggested, perhaps say to yourself i will put my phone down for 20 minutes and in that time i will. Read/ do a quick workout/ do a jigsaw puzzle / . These small habits become more regular in time.
Or regarding sugar im quite like you too, so i will allow myself a biscuit/ small cake in afternoon or as a pudding but will say tomyself which fruit will i have today anf stick to it.
Good luck!

Try doing something you've neever done before every day

Start with the thing that lies in your hands and needs no external factors to achieve. Go on a health kick. Eat 7 to 10 fruit and veg every day and go on a long walk. Every day. Try to build up to doing 15k steps and make sure you eat healthy stuff before reaching for the sugar. You'll be surprised how it takes the edge off your appetite and how much better you feel when you're getting the nourishment and excercise the human body needs.

I think for me its having things to look forward to which, in turn, peps you up a bit as you make more of an effort with things that relate to them.

I break it down into short, medium and long term things and they can be big or small. So for me, cracking open the Baileys this weekend, a night out with friends in a few weeks and a holiday booked for next year.

Other things that might help are the 9 box method where you look at different areas of your life and plan how to improve them (health, wealth, hobbies, friends, family etc.) so that might spark some ideas for taking up new hobbies or things to work towards

Join a dog training group?

If you want a relationship, I'd look to do things that will put you around like-minded people. Like other dog lovers!