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Should I stick with my current solicitor?

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VenusJupiter · 07/11/2025 20:05

To cut a long story short and don't know if I have been unreasonable, but anyway solicitor is needing to reply to my ex partner's solicitor's letter for contact with DD.

Anyway I read out the letter to my WA worker and stupidly mentioned in the email to solicitor (regarding making changes to first draft of letter) I had received support from WA regarding the letter she had drafted on my behalf. I forgot solicitor had kindly told me over the phone that WA are not a legal professionals and not a source of legal guidance. I am not 5 and do know that , but anyway solicitor then said ...

" I understand that you are seeking a second opinion. Please could you confirm whether you are content to proceed on the basis of my advice? If you decide not to do so, I will unfortunately not be in a position to continue acting for you, and you may wish to seek alternative legal representation."

I have had to send solicitor an email previously with the abuse I endured when I was with my ex with a detailed account of everything that occurred throughout.

All I really said about the drafted letter was that WA agreed that there wasn't enough emphasis on the abuse I had endured.

Anyway... First time dealing with a solicitor.
Maybe I have been at fault here?
Should I just go with the flow now and trust the process?

Hope I'm making sense as I'm shattered and typing fast..... Happy to clarify anything if needed.

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Harassedevictee · 07/11/2025 21:02

@VenusJupiter I’ve not voted as this is too nuanced for a vote.

You do have to trust your solicitor and accept they will not word things how you would.

If you are happy for them to act, email back and say “I am happy to proceed on the basis of your advice.”

You could add in but I would like you to add in “….”

Provide no more than one or two sentences that describe the abuse. For example he controlled the finances so I couldn’t afford to buy basics like food.

Next time there is nothing stopping you talking to your WA but do not tell your solicitor.

BookArt55 · 08/11/2025 08:14

The solicitor works for you. You need to trust them, if you don't then get another. If you do, then continue and just don't tell them why you want something changed. Just tell them you want X added in. You're paying for a service and you are the expert in your case, not the solicitor.

VenusJupiter · 09/11/2025 10:22

Completely agree with you. I don't want her getting iffy with me again. Honestly . I get she understands the law, that's fine.

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