I've just turned 40, married with kids. My husband is - without doubt - a sexist. If i talk about issues at work - he will make jokes about my female colleagues being on their period and he says distasteful things about women on tv. He gets mad when I question him.
I have known him for 15 years - married for 8. I don't know why i don't hate him - i just am totally disintersetd in him. I am disinterested in all men. I no longer get my attention and I am so happy wihth that - i used to LIVE for male attention. If I don't have sex every again - that would be fine with me.
I feel like a totally different person to how I was 15 years ago. I can't believe what i used to put up with. When i look back, every man in my life - from my father, to my brothers, to every boyfriend - I have acted in a way to please them, pretended to be stupid to make them feel better, adapted myself to appear 'cool'. I have put up with some horrendous & abusive stuff.
I'm not like that anymore. My husband says Ive changed and i'm cold and awful these days. Maybe I am. I just am not intersted in him and his moods. I couldn't care less anymore what he thinks about me.
I just wondered if other people feel this change so much? Sorry not to like a therapy session. But I just wonder if people go through this? Is this a mid life crisis? It doesn't feel like a crisis - it feels like i was in crisis beforehand!
How do people stay in happy relationships their whole life if we change so much?