Should I pay for all of the bills?

[Fairypop244466]

So long story short, I’m divorcing my husband. He had an affair, we have a 2 year old child together.

The family home is a 3 storey 4 bed detached house. I am currently working part time due to child care issues. Ex works full time and does pay child maintenance. He has our son around 8 days every month.

He decided to move out when the affair came to light and now lives with his parents. They have a 6 bed house so plenty of space for him and our son when he stays. He doesn’t contribute anything financially to his parents. They also owned another house which they offered to ex to live in but he didn’t want to.

I have stayed living in the family home as I have no where else for me and our son to go until we sort out the financials in the divorce.

Here’s the thing, ex wants me to pay for all of the bills on my own, apart from the mortgage payment which he is paying half towards. His reasoning is obviously that I’m living there so should pay it all. I see his point but I’m really struggling on my part time wage. He’s also dragging out the negotiations and we are getting no where fast with them. I was okay with him still living with us as the house is big enough so that we can live separately but he doesn’t want to.

I wouldn't expect him to pay half towards the other bills but maybe a small contribution just to ease up some pressure on me. I’m living penny to penny and he’s booking several holidays and concerts.

Another se dad. So many of them cheating paying a low cms

sure he is earning much more then that esp if paying the mortgage

contact hmcr

you need to sell the house and buy smaller

Are the bills still in his name as well?

He’s clearly not paying the right tax so is scamming you over child maintenance and not a lot you can do when they are self employed (but do report to HMRC). Also not a lot you can do re the bills. But very frustrating why childcare is only your problem and he can work full time, pocket the money and scam HMRC whereas you’re working part time. Have you checked if you’re entitled to any universal credit? I’d look for alternative childcare. Will be tough on one part time income with the pittance maintenance he is paying.

It sounds like he’s had his affair and walked away from the responsibilities he committed to regarding their shared house as well as the marriage. This leaves the OP covering all the bills that should be covered jointly. It’s not the OPs fault that he had an affair and moved out.
He’s living a great life with low outgoings and paying the minimum CM he can.

OP shouldn’t be left paying the bills alone for something she entered jointly. He’s paying half the mortgage and I think should be paying more, but how much is fair is hard to say without more detail.

Is he trying to control or break the OP financially by blocking house sale?