DH has been slandered on local FB page

[Westerntravel]

Posting for traffic. DH is a tradesman, has done the job for years with no issues and a great reputation with positive reviews etc.

He has been working in a local ladies house for the past week or so and the job finished on Wednesday afternoon.

Last night, without warning, she put a post up on our local FB community group and accused DH of going through her belongings. The reason she knows this, is that she always positions one of her drawers in a particular way and stuff had been moved.

DH is mortified and completely denies this. Thankfully, a lot of the replies are from people who have used him before without issue and they are singing his praises. There are some embarrassing comments from random people calling him a pervert etc which are really hurtful.

She is refusing to take it down despite polite requests from DH. Does anyone know where we stand on this?

All it takes is one person who was thinking of getting a tradesperson in to do a job and then sees that post and it sows doubts and doesn't book him on the basis of a stupid Facebook post.
It damages his reputation.

This is a good point

what size (min and max) would you suggest are safe/at risk of people going through their knicker drawer?

No middle ground? You’re either a stick thin model or fat?

I was with you until the disgusting, disrespectful things you wrote about size 20 women. You don't sound very nice, and you have done your husbands cause no good at all.
If your husband has been libled leave it to him to sort out, as you are a unpleasant and a liability.

well.. my fwb is quite happy to swipe my size 26 ones after a meeting. Some guys like something to cuddle ;)

How old is this lady?

Accusing people of going through their things and/or stealing is a sign of dementia. This is due to due to paranoia, anxiety, and memory loss.

Wow. That’s quite awful especially when the Pitchfork Mob piles on too.

Ahh thanks @Kimura.

Agreed!

@Westerntravel I’m surprised at the moderators response. Our local group removes anything that is critical of local businesses. They have a hard line that the community group isn’t the place for that and they don’t want to be moderating online disputes.

It was a strange thing to say, DH definitely wouldn't have done it because the lady was a size 20. Rather than leaving it at he definitely wouldn't have done it.

Does make one wonder.

We have to wonder how OP’s husband knows her pants size though?

Makes it look reasonable to consider he looked at her underwear to know they were size 20.

Or maybe he or the OP just guessed by looking at her?

Also am not sure you did 'say it with the greatest respect' Like a pp said if she had been slimmer would that have made it believable? Am sorry this has happened but with the 'greatest respect' I don't think your attitude is all that great.

I would put a very short professional response to say that you strongly deny Mrs Pantsonfire’s allegations, and will be seeking legal advice in regards the liable implications of the post.

edited to add: seems I’m late to the party and see OP has posted her DH has done this. That will teach me to not read all the response’s 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

Solicitors letter ASAP. Request take down and formal public apology.

Yes its libel and unless she can show otherwise she is guilty of it. So is the Facebook page for "publishing" it. Get a solicitor to write a stiff letter to her and whoever runs the Facebook page. Do it asap to nip this in the bud. They just do not have the right to make unfounded allegations in public. If the woman believed there was a theft she should have gone to the police, not said this stuff on an online forum.

You think I am being ott because you have fat friends?!?! (This reads as I’m not racist!!! My best friend is black!) Do these friends know you think that they are so disgusting as to be on the bottom of any man’s wish list?- your words not mine. That as far as you are concerned they are safe from men and perverts because- size 20 knickers?!? Do they know that if they wronged you first , you would pick on their size for that is what makes them worth less? (As that is what you chose to mock about this woman- who is a liar and is cruel and spiteful for spreading lies about your husband?- those are not the qualities you chose to mock or deride , instead you felt the need to point out her size and how low on men’s wish list that places her) of course they have never accused you of anything untoward!- they are your friends and have never crossed you! But you have shown here that should a woman of their size cross you, it is her size and not her qualities that you will spit venom at first. As I said - check your misogyny op, it’s internalised and probably unintentional. Because it’s clear you’d not have said the same if she were a size 10.

I hope your dh gets a fair resolution.

Agree. I think the woman sounds a bit barmy if she arranges drawers in a certain way, so she can tell if things have been moved. It sounds almost like she's trying to catch tradespeople out. Unless there were multiple posts making the same accusation, I'd take little notice of one customer complaint about something so random.

Honestly you don’t know that he didn’t.

Also “fat” porn does get quite a few hits and the men that are feeders tend to be on the thin or built side so without being mean there is nothing to say he isn’t secretly into the chubbier lady.

Back on track he can either ignore and hope it disappears and know the people who have had good jobs keep recommending him. Or you silence her legally but honestly the damage has been done and silencing her will just likely lead to offline mutterings that he did it. How can she or he prove he did or did not. She believes he did. He says he didn’t.