Ex and I share a ds12 who plays football quite competitively and often has games in far flung places. Ds goes to his dads EOW so I’ll take him to games on my weekend and vice versa. Last night game was pencilled in at a venue about 1.5 hours drive away with a 6 pm kick off. I’m not very confident at driving long distance in the dark so my Dh generously offered to take him. All good. Ds was happy with it and I think occasionally it’s nice for them to have a bit of time together and for Dh to watch his games as it’s usually me who takes him while he stays home with our younger dc.
My ex messaged this morning asking how it went and when I mentioned Dh took him he seemed quite put out. Lots of ‘well I could have taken him if you’d asked’ type comments. But it was my contact time and my responsibility to facilitate it. I genuinely didn’t think it would be an issue.
It’s not the first time he has shown a bit of low key jealously about dh and ds. Which seems stupid to me as I’m completely in favour of ds having a good relationship with his stepmum and have never passed comment on how they manage their time and childcare when he’s at his house.
To add, Dh and I have been together nearly 10 years so it’s not like he’s some random new boyfriend.
YANBU - ex is being silly and should mind his own business.
YABU - it was your job to take him or you should have asked ex.