To want nursery to back me up about making DD say please and thank you

[milliec]

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yanbu

I absolutely agree with you - the key worker is being lazy and rubbish - I still think that manners are incredibly important tools for every situation

think the keyworker was a bit weird to tell you off for asking your dd to be polite... !

I wouldn't be that bothered if they weren't continually reminding them to say please and thank you though, it must be hell with a class full of toddlers. Dd knows to say please and thank you but I still have to remind her. All. The. Time.

she will get there in the end through your example.

yanbu. She's being lazy.

YANBU I would get my 1-2 aged children at nursery to say please and thank you.

She shouldn't interfere with your parenting, but you also need to accept that she has less time and needs to be more flexible when dealing with many children from different families who all have different priorities. It can be impossible to remember exactly what family X, family Y and family Z find the most important in good manners.

In the long run, it's going to be your manners and not the keyworker's that rub off on your dd, so take heart; as long as your own example is immaculate, the rest probably doesn't matter that much.

But I agree with the others, she sounds a bit lazy, and she has no right to interfere with what you do.

Saying please and thank you is more of an observed learning than teaching it. We have never really taught our DCs this, but we say please and thank you ourselves and remind them gently to do so.

Your DD will learn your good manners and not her nursery teachers.

Still, yanbu, to be annoyed that she is not making the effort. It does not take a moment to say please or to remind a child to say thanks.