MIL - Do we take her with us on holiday again?

[Swedes]

We are about to book our next holiday. She drove me completely mad the last holiday we took her on. But she is 83. It's impossible for her to get a holiday without help. Surely I can do it for just another week, can't I? DP hasn't mentioned it but I know he would probably like her to come - in a duty way.
Factors for consideration are:
She's 83 but sharp as a tack.
She's Austrian.
She has a disabled driving badge but can sprint to the restaurant, mowing people down as necessary.
She is demanding - if things aren't right she will complain

Yes, take her, please, because then the mother-in-law universal karma with be restored now that mine is lying in a wet tent.

Compromise? - a long week end rather than a full week away?

Boco - You traitor.

LL - Yes, I feel it's the right thing to do. But I must search for the thread I posted last October on return from my last MIL accompanied holiday.

Hotel? ADjoining flats? So you could be near but not fully with?

You know you should.
How many of your 4DC's are sons

Justabout - yes! Except we have now varied our weekly day.

VictorianSqualor - Yes three of my children are sons. I would like to think that my example will be well-heeded.

Short break to satisfy MIL karmic balance, & another holiday for just you dh & kids?

Does DH have siblings???

I think twiglett needs her for her holiday - then if anythings not right MIL will complain and twiglett gets a resting relaxing holiday

Wilfsel - Nice idea. But she needs the help. Helping into the shower in the morning. Nakedness just not a problem. That's Austrians for you.

WW - Yes he does have a brother. But useless. SIL is very anti MIL.

My Dad's 82, He's taking us on holiday.
I'm still a bit , but I'm looking to make the best of it and being positive.
In your situation I wouldn't want to take her but it's not that bad.
Take her but arrange a lot without her!

Then raven's suggestion is good - a short holiday with her and another (longer ideally) without.

You deserve a holiday too!

I think I remember the last holiday thread as it reminded me of what happens when we go to restaurants with MIL...

Raven - Yes, thanks (sorry missed your post entirely). I think that might be a good compromise. A long weekend away with MIL et al and a week away with just DP and the children.

katisha -

It depends. Will this be your only holiday this year or do you go away quite often? Might be more inclined to include her if you have other opportunities to holiday without her cramping your style.

However, I must admit I really wouldn't want my MIL to come on holiday with us (she is late '70s and recently widowed). She's okay really and not too challenging but I find her mildly irritating . Personally feel that holidays are precious family time (as in nuclear family of me, dh and our children)

Are you 'dutiful' in other ways? (i.e do you visit her often etc?)

Ah just seen that you have her over for one day per week....

"If things aren't right she will complain". Mine can take that a step further and complain even if things ARE right...Likes to test them by ordering off menu...Even in a Harvester...

Katisha - They sound a good laugh.