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To think this is discrimation against those with disabilties?

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ComfortFoodCafe · 06/11/2025 16:34

my ds school have sent this out today saying your child needs 95 % attendance by the end of term to get a movie afternoon. Im guessing those who have lower attendance have to do work.
aibu to think this is disgraceful and discrimating against children who have disabilties and need time off school for it?

edit: Should I bring this up with the school? My child is one of these kids, their attendance is at 93 % from missing 3 days last term due to their disability.

To think this is discrimation against those with disabilties?
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Sterlingrose · 07/11/2025 07:39

It's pathetic on the part of the schools. My son suffers EBSA, as part of his adhd/asd/anxiety, and a movie afternoon would be exactly the sort of thing that would get him to feel happy, included and settled with his peers and more likely to go in to school. What's the point in rewarding children simply for being lucky enough to be not ill or disabled?

This kind of bollocks is why so many families are getting forced into home education.

Rusalina · 07/11/2025 07:43

Violetmouse · 06/11/2025 16:45

My daughter had cancer 6 years ago, she's done very well and we feel very lucky but she still has a lot of appointments which are often in school time so mean she usually doesn't meet the threshold for whatever attendance reward the school are handing out. I've argued this successfully a few times now on exactly those grounds - cancer is legally defined as a disability so she should not be treated less favourably as a result. It still makes me cross every time it comes up. Definitely bring it up with school.

I really cannot wrap my little brain around the idea that you’d have to argue your case on this. To actively decide to exclude a child from having fun with her peers essentially for having cancer is mind bogglingly cruel. But surely to god after the first time they did it and you challenged them, they’d think “ok yep that was a terrible decision's, we’ll make sure not to do that again”?!

TorturedParentsDepartment · 07/11/2025 07:47

School tried to mark DD1 being out of school for an autism assessment at the hospital as "unauthorised" recently so nothing surprises me (apparently we needed to reschedule the appointment we'd waited for 5 years for to outside school hours).

One of mine is off today - I'm expecting a call about how every school day counts - for a child with 1 half-day off for a medical review all this year... considering the school is currently rolling year groups being sent home due to building problems - they're treading on dangerous ground if they're arsey with me.

Sterlingrose · 07/11/2025 08:03

TorturedParentsDepartment · 07/11/2025 07:47

School tried to mark DD1 being out of school for an autism assessment at the hospital as "unauthorised" recently so nothing surprises me (apparently we needed to reschedule the appointment we'd waited for 5 years for to outside school hours).

One of mine is off today - I'm expecting a call about how every school day counts - for a child with 1 half-day off for a medical review all this year... considering the school is currently rolling year groups being sent home due to building problems - they're treading on dangerous ground if they're arsey with me.

I once rang one of mine in sick for flu. The family liaison called me at lunchtime and asked me if he was going to be coming in for the afternoon because "attendance is very important you know!"

Sure Janice, I'll send in my shivering, snotty child to infect everyone else with the flu to help your attendance figures.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 07/11/2025 08:07

Yet another case of rewarding children for having the good fortune to not be ill. I understand the need to push for net attendance with some kids, but there’s a lot with very genuine reasons for having less than perfect attendance and they shouldn’t be penalised for it.

My kids primary used to do prizes for those who walked to school rather than travelled by car. So basically rewarding children who were lucky enough to live close enough to walk (many didn’t) and had at least one parent with a job that allowed them to do the school run on foot rather than needing to be in the car in order to dash off to work straight away.

ComfortFoodCafe · 07/11/2025 08:10

Sterlingrose · 07/11/2025 08:03

I once rang one of mine in sick for flu. The family liaison called me at lunchtime and asked me if he was going to be coming in for the afternoon because "attendance is very important you know!"

Sure Janice, I'll send in my shivering, snotty child to infect everyone else with the flu to help your attendance figures.

thanks for having the common sense not to send your child, flu can kill mine! Thats another thing that pisses me off, they are encouraging those who are unwell to go to school to pass onto immunocompromised kids like mine. 😣 The amount of kids ive seen complaining they feel sick (or have been sick at school) is insane.

I will let you all know what the school says!

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