Final straw - friend always pitying me for being single

[Hannahdreamer]

I’ve been single since my exH left me (cheated) nearly two years ago. All bar one of my friends seems to understand that I am currently happy single and in no rush to meet someone, but will when the time is right. I’ve two kids and am concentrating on them and my work.

One of my friends has always been a bit more forward in asking when I’m going to be dating again and seems to forget I’ve told her I’m happy single.

Anyway - I’ll get to the point. This friend and I went to a hotel which has a pool/spa yesterday. We had lunch first and I had a glass of champagne, she had two and was tipsy. She was saying over lunch that she bet she could find me someone at the spa and I told her clearly not to.

What follows, is her speaking to every man who happened to be sat near us when in the jacuzzi, steam room etc. Started along the lines of ‘can you believe she’s single and can’t find a man’ to outright asking someone probably barely older than 18 if he’d want to spend the night with me. I shut this down and apologised to him, he look petrified! My friend then said to him ‘actually, she’d eat you alive’.

I was really cross with my friend and got out of the pool area to get changed and go home. She has apologised to me over message today.

AIBU to consider ending the friendship?

I can’t believe these replies. Of course it’s embarrassing and off but to end the friendship over one instance of bad behaviour is pretty OTT!! Don’t we all do shit that we’re embarrassed about from time to time?! I would be more miffed about having a friend who was so rigid and unforgiving.

This. Some people really can't believe it understand happily singledom. Even if it's coming from a good place, it's incredibly patronising and snacks of "Mummy knows best darling".

As for your "friend's" behaviour at the spa, that was downright rude and nasty. Id have been mortified. Maybe it's her way of trying to feel superior? Happy people don't do this.

I honestly think I'd be keeping my distance ...

She’s not your friend. Nothing more to say.

Lunatic. She sounds embarrassingly basic and you sound lovely and grounded OP

I would be backing way off this “friend” OP.

im single with no plans to do much about it, and only one person ever asks. Every time I have news she always jumps in to guess it’s a man, she is actually a nice person but it’s not a nice feeling.

but in addition, poor 18 year old in the spa, most of us have had the other way around scenario of being cornered by older men (not saying you are old but from the context I assumed older!) and “jokingly” propositioned and it’s a horrible, belittling and scary thing. Especially if literally cornered in a sauna etc!

Hi op only you can decide this if you enjoy her company keep her if not dump her. If you stay friends make it clear she embarrassed you and you are not being put through that again. Just tell her straight I’m happy single and if I want sex or a relationship I’m capable of sorting this myself . Tell her you may be sex positive whatever that is but she pushing her self into your life and not in a positive way.