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To ask what’s one stereotype about money you wish people would change?

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SoftPowerSaver · 06/11/2025 15:03

For me, it’s the idea that money automatically corrupts people - that if you have it, you’ll become selfish, mean or disconnected from others. I think that belief stops people from wanting to grow financially or even talk about money openly. Yes, money can bring out the worst in some but it can also give people freedom, stability and the ability to help others.

AIBU to wish we could separate wealth from moral judgement a bit more?

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Arlanymor · 08/11/2025 18:05

NewNewNef · 08/11/2025 17:52

I mean yeah.

Do elaborate why people are responsible for their own poverty.

And in doing so, I hope you know what poverty actually means?

Abitlosttoday · 08/11/2025 18:08

Mulledjuice · 06/11/2025 15:16

"What's for you won't go by you" to mean that you will get what you believe you are entitled to - when in fact it is more a phrase to keep people in their place.

The belief "i can't do maths" as though it is not a skill that can be learned (and the maths needed to deal with personal finance isnt complicated.

The belief that it is better to save in cash if you dont want to take any risk that your capital will erode.

The belief that doing what your boomer parents did will leave you as financially comfortable as they are.

The fear of making the wrong decision.

That it is grubby to want to be financially secure.

That it is ok to tread on other people to make sure you get richer.

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All of this.

Abitlosttoday · 08/11/2025 18:21

Chillithai · 06/11/2025 15:55

There is no one society view on this
you and I for example… same society, totally different outlook

There are societal norms around money. For example, it would almost always be a bold move to ask someone, however close, outright, 'So how much do you take home?' Or, in the UK at least, the wide hesitance around investing over saving. That's embedded in our culture and there are political moves to alter this recognised, widely held attitude. Money and our relationship to it, personally and societally, is a fascinating topic.

Abitlosttoday · 08/11/2025 18:22

There are societal norms around money. For example, it would almost always be a bold move to ask someone, however close, outright, 'So how much do you take home?' Or, in the UK at least, the wide hesitance around investing over saving. That's embedded in our culture and there are political moves to alter this recognised, widely held attitude. Money and our relationship to it, personally and societally, is a fascinating topic.

NewNewNef · 08/11/2025 21:03

Arlanymor · 08/11/2025 18:05

Do elaborate why people are responsible for their own poverty.

And in doing so, I hope you know what poverty actually means?

People are responsible for their own choices on studies, jobs and future

Netcurtainnelly · 08/11/2025 21:47

Fearfulsaints · 06/11/2025 16:24

That money doesnt buy happiness.

I do understand that money doesnt mean you are protected from very significant distressing things so its true in that sense. So i suppose its a half truth.

But I cant think of anything horrific that is made better by having no money.

So maybe I dont believe that money make things worse and I do hear people saying this.

Money definitely does not buy happiness.
Look at how many rich people are divorced for one.

strawberrybubblegum · 09/11/2025 10:19

Netcurtainnelly · 08/11/2025 21:47

Money definitely does not buy happiness.
Look at how many rich people are divorced for one.

Divorce rates in the lowest quintile income group is 26% - about 3 times the highest quintile group's divorce rate of 9%.

Partly because financial stress increases strain on a marriage.

But also because higher education levels, often associated with higher income, are linked to lower divorce rates and wealthier individuals tend to marry later in life.

Either way, given that divorce is expensive, I think it would be more conducive to happiness to be able to afford to divorce when a relationship had broken down rather than to have to stay together for financial reasons, as you sometimes see recommended on here.

lilacnapkin · 09/11/2025 11:26

Money definitely does not buy happiness
Look at how many rich people are divorced for one

Thats because they can afford it. I know many people stuck in miserable relationships who cannot afford to separate and live alone. If they had money they would separate in a heart beat. Financial issues are one of the biggest causes of issues in relationships

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 09/11/2025 11:40

That if you earn a lot it’s because you work hard, and if you don’t it’s because you don’t.

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