I’m 8 weeks postpartum with my beautiful baby. It’s wonderful but also harder than I ever imagined. I’m recovering from c section and my life has changed overnight as I’m a now a SAHM with no formal plans to return to work (I’m freelance). I’m struggling with all the usual PP things like breastfeeding, sleep, feeling loss of identity etc. I have a history of depression so I have to be very on it with my mood and coping mechanisms.
All my energy is focused on baby and keeping on top of my mood which I’ve being doing successfully. The issue is that since DH has returned to work we have been arguing constantly. He feels pulled between two places and very overwhelmed. The issue is that I’m also overwhelmed and despite trying to support him he is very moody and it’s getting me down. When he is home he responds badly to any of my suggestions ie. I think baby needs a coat if you are going outside.. he feels I’m criticising his parenting. I’m not great at just riding things out, I like to find solutions. He is just so stressed and snappy all the time. I know it’s a big change for him too, But I can’t help but feel like deep down I’m going through the most change and I find it difficult to be there for him, baby and myself. Any words of wisdom would be welcome.