To feel sceptical about friendship

[Bedheadbeachbum]

Now, I'm pretty self aware and I realise I might have done some of these things myself (except ghosting, I don't do that to people) and have probably annoyed others, but these days I'm feeling sceptical about taking up friendships.

I've been described by a few people as 'very sociable' & I'd agree, I love a chat and knowing people around me, but I find so many friendships come and go! People get less interested & make less effort, they have their own crises and issues (a couple of my friends have poor mental & physical health), work demands increase or your schedules no longer overlap.

I find it really difficult! I love seeing the same faces regularly, but for me on average they are strong for a couple of years then kind of weaken up. Bit like a lot of relationships right! I'm lucky to have one very strong friendship however.

I'm thinking of just joining a club rather than actively trying to make friends and just accept my friendships that come and go for what they are. Does anyone else have the same? It can't just be me.

Op I def find mine fizzling out are people busier. I find it needs be 2 way efforts. They delighted to hear from me but again unless I plan it all.. Im trying have a few friends. One has grandkids but sure she always busy too lol

Not all friendships last forever. There's a saying, "You have friends for a reason, a season and a lifetime" and I think that's fine.

I think popular culture, particularly TV, often show us a version of friendship that seldom happens in the real world. Those 3 women who are best friends, in and out of each other's houses at all hours, standing witness to every thing that happens to them etc etc. I have a number of women I consider very very close friends, lifetime friends, but that sort of "in my pocket" friendship just isn't real or practical.

Actually, on that note, I just remembered a meme I saw a little while ago. It's a picture of the cast of Friends sitting aroudn the table drinking coffee and eating breakfast in Monica's apartment and it says something like, "The biggest lie Friends sold me is adult friends gathering at an apartment to eat breakfast before work"

So true.