I have a family member whose BF fathered a baby with someone else. Family member has 2 young (1&3yo) DCs with him. BF hasn’t worked for over a year, but is pretending to go to work every day. His family has been supporting him, paying rent, mostly. Now everyone has found out about an additional baby, his parents are very upset, said, they will not support him anymore (it was under his promises that he will pay them back, anyway). I spoke to a wronged girlfriend today about the money situation and about rent being unpaid for 2 months already (bf received money from his parents, but did not pay). Their landlord is my neighbour and spoke about the rent to me yesterday.
GF parents are thinking to move to the other side of the country and offered their daughter and her BF to move with them, but BF is ‘reasoning’ that he has a job here (which is not true) and she is reluctant to entertain the move.
Now, that I have found out about this new baby with another woman, I am torn if I should tell the GF. BF is pretending that everything is ok, GF today was telling me how hard working he is and how little time he spends with their children 😡, I was just sitting there on a verge of tears and almost spilled all the beans.
AIBU not to tell her anything? Or should I? I am not worried about him, I am thinking about her and the babies. Although, she was OW, who broke his first marriage, I still feel sorry for her and think she would be much better moving with her parents away from him.
What would you do in my place?