How bad is a glass of wine per night?

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Roughly 2.5 bottles a week - over the recommended units by quite a bit. But isn’t a significant amount per night. Just habitual at this point, and enjoyable over dinner.

It’s perfectly fine if you don’t really care about your looks, long term health, aging, mood and energy levels.

Exactly. That whole red wine is "good for you" garbage has been completely debunked. Although, people still desperately hang onto that due to cognitive dissonance.

It's so true- alcohol really does affect your looks. health, energy levels and mood all entirely negatively.

Yes to all of this. I was diagnosed with cancer at 39, very unexpected, I actually didn’t drink much at all. Alcohol is a grade 1 carcinogen. I went sober overnight. There is no safe limit with alcohol.

By all means enjoy a glass or two but it seems you know you’re taking in quite a bit amount. I can highly recommend M&S Merlot grape juice as a dreamy AF option.

I would like to apologise, OP. You are right, my comment was very unhelpful and petty too. I wish you all the best in finding the balance that works for you. Take care

MNHQ, can we ban this poster from AIBu for having grace, kindness and decency?

Thank you I appreciate that. Not very often people apologise on here! X

Somebody who drinks a glass of wine per day is not an alcoholic.
Somebody who is alcohol dependent needs alcohol. I pretty much doubt the OP needs alcohol when she is drinking such small amounts.

My father is an alcoholic but is not alcohol dependent in the sense that he does not drink every day and has long periods of abstinence where he “proves” that he is not dependent or addicted.

he is still an alcoholic. Once he starts he cannot stop, he drinks x3 in secret what he drinks publicly, when he is not drinking he thinks about drinking, he minimises the volumes he drinks, he denies being drunk or hungover, he spikes his wine with vodka or whiskey to take in more alcohol than others realise.

im not saying the OP is definitely an alcoholic but just to debunk that an alcoholic is always dependent in the way most people would think.

@queenmeadhbh your dad has problematic issues with alcohol and alcohol use disorder. There is a difference. Somebody who is a proper alcoholic has alcohol dependance and needs alcohol to get through the day. They'll suffer from withdrawal symptoms when not drinking and stopping suddenly without a drink down plan will be dangerous.
This is why we are trying to steer away from the term "alcoholic".