I’ll try to keep it short.
My father has an untrained, very anxious springer spaniel. I’ve recently found out she growls at children.
Prior to DD (9 months), arriving in February this year, i was ok with DF bringing his dog to visit our house as he lives 2 hours away.
However, DF visited with his dog when DD was newborn, it was a total disaster. We said she could come but stay in the kitchen. She barged through the kitchen/lounge and ran onto the sofa where me and DD was, it frightened and shocked me, I had a csection with nasty infection and simply couldnt move myself to get away quick enough. DF stood there dumbstruck until DH got her down and put her in the garden where she howled and cried for the whole neighbourhood to hear. Scratched my patio door to bits. She then peed in the kitchen (as she does every visit) and jumped all over furniture.
Since then he has visited without the dog, and leaves her with his girlfriend.
He is now asking to bring his dog on his next visit, as his girlfriend wants to visit too. He said he would keep the dog on a short lead.
I said I would think about it, but actually I still feel uncomfortable with this. DD is crawling and cruising, I dont want the kitchen floor to be covered in dog wee yet again.
He doesnt have anyone else to look after his dog, so I feel guilty, but i also feel like it isn’t my problem to resolve?
Thank you.