To think cheating is sometimes a symptom, not a cause?

[MoralGreyMoth]

Not saying it’s right, just that it usually points to something already broken. AIBU to think moral outrage stops us asking why it happens?

Sure, obviously - all actions people take are for the benefits they perceive they bring to them, even ostensibly altruistic ones.

Point is, if you are the one cheating, and you believe something is broken, there are better steps to take to resolve that, such as talking to your partner, or ending the relationship first.

So while there may be many many reasons for it, there pretty much aren't any excuses for it.

Well if you think something is broken, you sort that out before you jump into bed like a slut with someone else surely?

Sometimes something is broken. So what?

Often it's just opportunity/feeling a bit bored in a long relationship/being flattered and excited by attention from someone 'new' so an ego trip, and nothing was actually broken.

screams of "look what you made me do", "you didnt give me enough attention so I went and had an affair" -

lack of accountability...

Haven't you already covered this topic ThreeRandomWords? I'm sure you've done this before