I’m tired of the men in my family

[ReachedMyCityLimits]

I am officially the last blood female in my closest and extended family. I am surrounded by blood male relatives and every one of them is a high maintenance, alpha male. A few of them are divorced or widowed, and TBH when alive, I felt sorry for them putting up with my male relatives.

A few family things have happened lately, and again it came to the surface how selfish, argumentative and high maintenance the men in my family are. I’ve spent the past 6 weeks feeling ill after listening to them rant on at me. I’m just drained, tired and fed up of them all.

Of course, NAMALT, and my own DH is lovely.

I feel outnumbered and that as the only woman left (I’m talking blood relative) they think my job is to listen to them moaning on and be at their beck and call.

I have to go to a family event in a couple of weeks. I usually stay with one of them but last time I did I was at the end of my tether listening to them. It’s 24/7 GB news, migrants, and negativity and it’s exhausting. I’m thinking hotel, and just pop in to do what I’ve got to do.

AIBU to say to my family, see you there, I’m staying in a hotel and I’m not here to listen to you as your defacto wife that you don’t have and so you think it’s down to me to absorb all you anger and moaning?

Everyone I've ever met who self-describes as an "alpha male" has been an insufferable bell-end. A hotel sounds like an excellent idea.

That sounds like a great idea.

Perfect idea. I’ve come to the same conclusion about the male members of my family.

You need to practise stopping them in their tracks, calling them out.

Just dont play the game, you have a choice.

Mirror their own sense of self importance - would they sit and listen to you rant? No, I thought not.

God, I feel you.
It must be so sad, as well, to look across generations and see how everyone has been conditioned to think this is normal behaviour, so you see younger generations pick the same men, with the same behaviour, because thats all they know. And the men replicate that behaviour into their own relationships, teaching their sons thats how to be.

Do you have to go at all?

I hear you. I'm starting to feel the same about my male friends, and I've only got 3 of the buggers.

Totally agree, can’t think of any bloke I’ve ever met who’d identify themselves like this who hasn’t been a complete twat.