AIBU to be upset that my in-laws don’t accept me because I’m taller than their son? Bit of a strange one, but I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
I (31F) have been with my partner (32M) for nearly 4 years, and we got engaged earlier this year. He’s lovely, supportive, and we have a really solid relationship. The problem is… his parents seem to despise me — and it’s apparently because I’m taller than him.
For context, I’m 5’10” and he’s 5’7”. I never thought anything of it, but from day one his mum has made little digs like, “Oh, you must make him feel so small!” or “Wouldn’t he look better with a more petite girl?” His dad once joked that we “look funny in photos” and then refused to include us in a family picture because I “throw the proportions off.” 🙄
I tried to laugh it off at first, thinking it was old-fashioned nonsense, but it’s escalated. When we got engaged, his mum apparently told him she “couldn’t be happy about a marriage that would make her son look emasculated.” She even said I was “trying to dominate him physically.” (???)
We’ve tried to talk to them, but they just double down — saying I’m being “overly sensitive” and that “it’s just the way things are, women shouldn’t tower over their husbands.”
My fiancé is furious and has limited contact, but I can tell it’s hurting him. I don’t want to be the reason he’s estranged from his parents, but I also don’t see how I can have a relationship with people who reject me over something so trivial.
So… AIBU to think this is completely ridiculous and to say I’m done trying? Has anyone else dealt with something similar?