AIBU to not ‘use’ present same time as my sisters?

[Reny44]

for Christmas and birthdays and other events my mum likes to buy me and my 2 sisters vouchers for facials, massages etc. there are my favourite type of gift as I don’t often have the money to book these things myself. When she gives them she always says “you 3 can all book together and make a day of it” which sounds good in theory. We all have children and it’s hard getting a time that works for us all. Plus, I like to use my voucher soon after receiving it whereas my 2 sisters leave it a few months.
initially I always suggested a few dates but they never suited or they didn’t reply. Now I book on myself when suits me. Keep in mind these are now ‘spa day’ type vouchers which then maybe I would be more inclined to go as a group.
now I’m seen as the one who ‘does her own thing’ and my mum is cross about it that we don’t all go together. The other 2 sisters don’t usually then go together, in fact they’re usually scrambling to get booked before it expires
AIBU?

if they were not for a spa day for three but individual vouchers up to you when you go. , You tried to arrange a date but got nowhere, so no just go and enjoy it

Just tell her you have tried to get the three of you booked in together but it wasn’t possible. If it is a joint gift she needs to book you all in and pay the spa direct.

She isn’t doing that because she knows how difficult organising that will be.

I have some friends like this, who can’t cope with the idea their adult kids aren’t inseparable. I think they almost see it as some kind of flaw in their parenting or something.

When you get the vouchers I would suggest 3 dates and get them to do the same and lock one in. If they drop out or don’t book them in then I would suggest you go separately.

It actually seems like you are the one that is wanting to make the most out of the gift and they are the ones not appreciating it.

I would personally prefer an alone spa day sometimes though (not always) and there’s nothing wrong with that either