Anniversary getaway am I unreasonable?

[momtoboys]

Our anniversary is in three weeks time. Dh and I have planned to visit a seaside town for two nights in the town where we holiday every summer. The plan was to see the christmas decorations, take cold walks on the beach and eat delicious food. Reservations made. Yesterday my DH told me that he thinks an annual fundraiser where he volunteers is on the same weekend. He will verify the date today.

If it turns out it is on the same weekend, would I be unreasonable to go by myself? I could really use a couple of days away, DH will be busy most of the weekend.

Definitely not. Do it and enjoy.

Depends what your DH thinks. If you usually spend anniversaries together and that’s important to you then he may be upset if you don’t do something together closer to home. If he’s not bothered then go for it - marriage isn’t about just one day - you can celebrate any time

You wouldn’t be unreasonable but equally, I think he should decline the fundraiser. He’s made plans which have cost money, and three week’s notice is very last minute to be finalising the date of an annual event, the charity has to expect low availability at short notice. I’m sure you’d have a great time in your own, but it still wouldn’t be what had been arranged.

Update - he will still do the fundraiser on Friday and we will go away for Saturday and Sunday night instead of Friday and Saturday!

Perfect solution. Enjoy your break

I see from your update that you've got a good solution in place 🎉Have a lovely time.

Had there been no way of changing the dates of the anniversary, I think my first reaction would have been that your DH should skip the fundraiser as your anniversary trip was already booked. But going on your own would have been totally reasonable if he'd refused to skip it.