Husband grrrrrr

[Lucky66]

So literally had a conversation with my disabled husband, may add I'm disabled also about how tired I am I manange to work 3 days a week in a adaptive job but it is physical and stressful
Told him how I need help more with bits in house,
I do all food shop 90 percent of cleaning and not sleeping much, all household admin
Two grown up kids left home, one his one mine and he's great with them
Feel like blowing my top yet again as he's just walked in room with lunch, only when he saw my face did he offer to would I like a sandwich 😂😂😂
It's laughable it really is I may wash all my clothes this week and not his and see what happens!
Then explain as to why I did that, his is a very physical disabilities so understandable he cannot do big house chores like deep cleans or hoovering but he could put a jacket potatoes in oven and put cheese in it for a meal he can do that he just don't think!!!

Clearly a slob.

Tell him it's great he's becoming self sufficient... And make your own tea only. Remind him you are both being self sufficient these days..

A slob because he didn't make her lunch? I think you might need a dictionary.

@Lucky66 thoughtless & selfish Vent away! Have you tried discussing what jobs he can take on to be his responsibility? Asking for help with more bits makes it seem like they are your responsibility, they're not. He needs to be pulling his weight (as much as he can given his limitations). Could you afford to get a cleaner for a couple of hours once a fortnight? Do you do online supermarket deliveries? I use Tesco & wouldn't give it up for anything! But him asking you if you'd like what he's making himself for lunch is just basic courtesy! Has he always been so uncaring?

I think it may be a good idea to discuss sharing responsibilities. Ok, there are some things he can't do but if there are others that he can, then you need to talk about sharing the load. There is no other way to solve it but to talk about it like adults.

Or you could have an adult conversation about it?

How do people manage in life being so juvenile and passive aggressive…

Thank you for a sensible reply for rest yeah OK,
He is far from a slob but he is unable to work due to his injuries and constant pain drugs he is on,
He can stand short periods and washes up but it's more a case of won't plan a meal shop for goods or do anything without been prompted, I think he could put laundry on I'm simply thinking of washing mine and seeing how long it takes him to realise I haven't done his to simply make a point🤔😂😂

Why put 😂? It diminishes your feelings and point if you pretend you laughed to the point of tears about it. If you did, why the moaning thread?